Husbands friends are heartless
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@Reena because they’re my husbands friends, they’ve been friends for years since they were kids. So I’ve always made an effort for his sake not theirs
So what? They don't like you. Forget about making an effort because it's not going to change. The only person getting hurt here is you because you're hoping that your efforts will change how they feel but it's evident not. If your husband wants to remain friends so be it but they can be his friends and not yours.
Does.yoir husband know how you feel? Or sense the tension?
Yeah, don't waste your money or time or effort anymore. If your husband wants to do it, then he can be the one to choose & buy the presents
If it's the whole group that don't like you - you may be portraying yourself differently to how you think you are. Unless they don't like any of their friends partners? Get your partner to ask them what you've done and try and make amends. Something must have happened to make them think this. Or your partner is talking shit about you to them? Xnx
@Alex I was thinking this too. Very odd how the whole group would act the same way! Don't waste your time hun xx
@Layla OP is either oblivious to rubbing people up the wrong way, or something/someone has said enough to make them all feel the same way. What gave them the impression that OP is controlling/not the one? Her partner must be telling them stuff to make them think that? Or OP gives him a hard time/constantly checks in etc whenever he isn't there? We'll never know I guess 🤷
First rule in happiness, at least this is my rule, when you give a gift, don't expect the other people to reciprocate. Many times you will be dissapointed and get hurt. So that would be my advice. I personally am the type of person that does nice things, say hello 1, 2 even 3 times, however if the situation is of such a manner that they say/ do nasty things, I just cut those people out of my/our life. You don't need friends like this and stress in your life. Speak to your hubby tell him how you feel, have an honest discussion with him maybe you'll get some clear thought towards why his friends don't like you. Good luck!
Is your husband not annoyed they didn’t bother to get your baby anything? Like regardless if they’re not keen on you they’re his friends and they should want to celebrate the baby. As for the comments about you by other posters i think that’s unfair. Some groups can be clicky and just not like someone for the sake of their face not fitting or due to a few random throw away comments that’s maybe have been made by your husband. Stay civil, stop sending birthday cards and surround yourself with people who lift you up
I’d cut out any further effort with them until you understand why they have an issue with you. Simply take the most reasonable person aside and ask.
With present giving my husband doesn’t even buy his best mate a birthday present - never mind their partners/children, they just don’t have that relationship, so maybe they aren’t buying each other in the group gifts? Although it can be upsetting when effort is not reciprocated, their budgets might not allow them to do more than the happy birthday message. I’d just spend the money you would on presents for them on something nice for you!
Don’t waste your time or money, and your partner should really be on your side! If he gets mad explain he can have his friends and you have yours! Always the easiest way then sharing friends x
If you feel they don't like you then just cut the relationship out. Why bother 🤷🏽♀️