Am I unreasonable and a bad pet mom?

So my hubby and I recently adopted a 4 year old stray. He’s been neutered and vaccinated the whole shebang. We have a 3 month old baby boy and he sleeps in his crib in our bedroom, (I exclusively breastfeed so it’s easier to have my boy next to my bed in his crib). The first night mr kitty decided to jump into the crib and jumped on top of my sleeping baby’s chest and obviously it startled my baby and he cried, kitty did it a few more times but from the dresser into the crib and he almost landed on my baby’s head, I was just in time to intervene. I felt sad and scared for my baby. My hubby and I decided to let kitty sleep outside our room for the night, and we both felt bad about it because the cat was upset as he was meowing and scratching the door. Ever since he’s been super obsessed with our bedroom because the crib is inside, as soon as the door opens he jumps right into the crib and wiggles his tail as if he’s trying to spray and he will rub his body and face all over the mattress and pillow. Getting him out is a mission too and I cant get it in my heart to raise my voice at the cat or chase him! I tried picking him up but he scratched me to get loose and jumped right back! I don’t want him sleeping in the crib with my child as I’m worried he might suffocate as I can’t supervise them throughout the night. Also I don’t think its hygienic as the kitty steps in his litter box where theres pee and poop as well as the loose hair covering my child’s bedding. Im worried he breathes it in as it already causes my baby to sneeze a lot and get itchy eyes. My husband wants to take the cat back to the humane society because I am sad and worried for our baby’s safety and that kitty won’t be able to adapt and be happy either. I feel like I failed the cat 😞 but my baby is way more important than the cat obviously! Am I a horrible person for deciding that it’s best we wait until our son is older to get a cat, and to take this kitty back to the humane society? I was hoping it would work out 😢

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It was just bad timing! New baby and new cat, who is older and gonna be a little harder to teach, is just a bit too much at once.

Instead you can get deterant sprays and stuff that could teach kitty to stay away from crib if you want to try.

You're not horrible. Did you adopt the cat before or after baby? I had a crib tent to try keeping the cats out. Eventually after the efforts to keep the cats out we decided to move baby to his own room and everyone actually slept better that way. Now his room door can be closed, cat free safe environment and our bedroom is where the cats usually spend a good portion of the day. They love sleeping with us. Obviously that's not an option for everyone. But you're totally not horrible for worrying about your babies safety. You can try the deterent spray outside your bedroom door and keep cat out of bedroom at night and hopefully the spray will keep him from scratching. Get him several cozy sleeping spots outside the bedroom and put some catnip on those. You may want to get your son allergy tested asap. At the end of the day, if none of this works I wouldn't blame you for having to return the cat. Especially if you haven't had the cat very long and your son is possibly allergic...

So my niece told me with her cat, she had to put a sheet over the top of the crib to keep her cat out

Buy a cheap crib or a 2nd hand one and have that for the cat. That will solve that problem. Use cat nip on it as-well. Also get a muslin cloth and get your babies scent on it and put it in there. You will no longer have no problems. Don’t use deterrent sprays on your babies crib it’s not good for the baby. Instead use Vicks vapor rub or use mint essential oil. (Not on the mattress).

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