I made my BD mad. This morning he very much wanted to do some things. But I was rocking the baby to sleep. He was literally humping me, and trying force himself in me while I tending to his child. I got up, and told him “dude, I’m busy.”

Ew thats so weird of him to do like theres a time and place.. he couldnt wait? 🤦🏻‍♀️ sorry you had to go through that

That’s not okay! And for him to get upset with you when you told him no is a major NONO

My husband told me that he was going through post partum as well obviously it in the same way but tell him if he wants some alone time to help out more the best he can and when the baby is sleeping ya’ll can plan something simple in the house for quality time. It is easy for us mom to forget about our husband and tend completely to the baby which is what we are supposed to do but remember they’re going through a change too not on his side at all though just better communication would help

It sounds like HE needs to be rocking the baby since he clearly has enough free time to be worried about the wrong things. If he was actually taking care of his baby as much as you are, he wouldn't be actively trying to create another one. I think yall need to have a conversation about his role as a dad not just his role as a babymaker. I'm sure you'd be all for it if he was doing his part to get the baby sleep or settled into an activity. Boundaries need to be created, you're a human, not a sex toy 🖤

@J.S. He doesn’t believe in helping with the baby because he works and pays the bills.

I was already like "Jesus Christ this guy" and then I read your comment... hahahahahaha babe RUN. That's absolutely not how anyone should live. You are not a nanny, maid, and sex slave all in one. You are a mother and a PARTNER. He is in absolutely no way benefiting your life. Run run run.

*our baby *our bills Your role as the homemaker doesn’t mean he doesn’t do anything other go to work and pay the bills. He’s a father, he needs to act like a dad. Or he’s just a tier2 deadbeat. Set some boundaries.

So he works a 9-5 and you get to work 24/7, make it make sense?

@Shannon oh gosh don’t tell him that . Because my job I can sleep in without being fired. 😒 and I get to be in the house all day.

@Shimaya any time I tell him he does nothing when it comes to the baby : he get big boy mad and says “away ohhh but I’m working. I’d love to stay home all day . It’s not that hard. I just make it seem so hard.”

If he doesn't believe in helping, I would mention every single time I decline that I'm 'working'. I'm sorry, that's a deal breaker for him to have you being a single mom. Genuinely ask him why it's not easier to just be single and get child support if all he's willing to do is give money? At least you wouldn't have to be dry-humped while you do it all alone. He has a LOT of nerve I'm irritated for you 😩 I always 'joke' about how many men are out here begging to be a step dad, if he doesn't wanna help I promise someone else is waiting in line to step up for you and your baby, his little job is not enough to be his slave

@Mariam Janneh yea I agree

Anytime I speak to him about this. He is very much reminding me that I have better than he does. I’m not his slave or mother.

You will need to set boundaries and understanding. Because if he doesn’t help I’m taking care of the baby he will lack that connection as your baby grows and that father child connection is very important from a early age. And God forbid anything we’re to happen to you he wouldn’t know what to do with y’all’s baby. And let him know the more he helps you with the baby the more time you will have for him team work.

Lololololol. That's hilarious. Sorry. Men are so dumb! But they can't help some of it. Some of them are testosterone driven. I knew recovery was going to be tough for me but not as bad as it's been. I told my husband to jack off on me or with me since he couldn't put it in. We as humans need to cum for so many health reasons, stress, anger and anxiety are just a few. It's way worse for men then it is for women unfortunately. Edit Added: just read through the comments. It's time to talk to him and even when he "reminds" you that it's not all that hard dont shut down. Push it back on him. Maybe even challenge him. Ask him to do it for a weekend. See if he can manage. 🤞 I hope you don't suffer through it. If you see potential out of him I get it but at the end of the day if he really loves you he will work on it. If he doesn't want to lose you.

@incognito Doesnt matter, who is in charge of getting up at night? This guy sounds like a POS. My husband and I have a deal. We both work 9-5, him with his job, me with the baby. When he gets home we are both “off the clock” and on baby duty together. This guy sounds like such a jerk

@J.S. Hahaha that first line is so on point

Be like, “you’re absolutely right. So I think I should get a job. Then we can work around each other’s schedule & alternate staying home with the baby”. When we had our 3 yr old, I worked and husband stayed home. He learned how tough it is. Because of it, there’s nothing he wouldn’t do if I ask him. Except be faithful 🥴 So I’m working on being a single mama now 🤷🏽‍♀️ Sometimes we do better on our own.

That would've pissed me clean off! Men need to understand there's a time and appropriate place, and while I'm taking care of your child, that's OBVIOUSLY neither!

I work and pay the bills, I tend to baby, I tend to husband's dog. My husband kept talking down to me and still does. I finally let him be intimate with me last week and instantly regretted it because not even 5 hours later he wanted to start an argument with me over something that was 10000% in his control and zero of mine as I'm stuck in the house literally 24/7 and never leave. And before giving birth 7 months ago I kept practically begging for genuine quality time with him for him to go and buy himself distractions or completely ignore me using all sorts of excuses. And I'm 10000% sure he's been cheating on me since before we even got pregnant by the way he acted while I was pregnant and how he's acting now. So idk. Just be careful. Wear a condom. Don't procreate with that man again if he's useless for you guys now.

I told my husband to put on one of the condoms he had in his bag that I found when I was 5 months pregnant and he said "i got them for us to have sex and i forgot they were in there. We can have sex monday" it was Saturday and we still hadn't had sex until last week. And why would he need to get condoms unless he wasn't cheating? I was already pregnant. And if he was disease free he wouldn't have needed condoms anyways. And when I asked him if he had used a condom and he said no and got all pissy and defensive and talked so much trash to me calling me so many names all for me to remind him he's the one who bought them while I was already pregnant so he's just calling himself all those names. Plus I told him straight up I do not want another child at all. (I do, just not with him, considering our entire situation not just our trash marriage).