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Would you allow your child’s father to take your son for the day without you if whenever me and him get into an argument he talks bad about our son??? Whenever my and my child’s father argue he says your son(really it’s our son) is fat or he says he’s gonna call child protective services so our son can get taken away, he said he’ll rather see him in the system than with me( because he knows that would destroy me). My son is 4 he should NEVER be brought up in an argument. I try my best to not even argue in front of him let alone talk bad about him in front of him smh. He told me when we argue he wants to hurt me so he says the worse things he can think of to hurt me, he said he doesn’t mean any of the things he says about our child. But now he wants to take him for the day tomorrow and I’m a little torn on if I should send him .

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I have some questions before I say my opinion: Does he have shared custody? Has he had any amount of being with him alone before? Has your son ever heard these mean words he has said?

@Brittany no there’s no custody agreements in place. He always threatens to take me to court for his rights but he never does. He’s been alone with him before. It’s not often but he has done it for about 5-6 hrs a couple times He sees his dad everyday though(only while I’m present, seems to be the way my son and his father likes it) . My child never wants to go with him though( I say it’s because of separation anxiety, he doesn’t go with ANYONE). My son had heard him say these things. He’s never said anything about it but I know for a fact he’s heard it.

I definitely wouldn’t let him go! It is absolutely not okay to use a child’s self esteem as a weapon! Document everything for when he does take you to court! He doesn’t deserve to have access to his child if he is willing to damage him to make you angry.