What Village

I normally hate complaining, and rarely do, but I am so freaking tired. Been a single parent since my baby was 5 months (She’s now 4), and I have no Village, no support, no breaks, no nights out, no life, no friends, just work, school pickup/drop offs, working overtime to keep up with bills, sleep, repeat.

I feel like my 20s are passing me by, I haven’t had a vacation in years, I’m dying a little more everyday. If I need a night out, I’ll have to pay for it myself, with money I don’t have. I’m just exhausted. Needed to vent.

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Wow, we have so much in common it's like I wrote this myself!!!! When I get to my lowest I always look at my kid's faces and that's all the motivation I need. I'm here to protect my kids and break generational curses. I will provide for them even if I'm left with nothing. You can message me anytime. God will never give you more than you can handle. Chin up mama you got this!

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This is definitely a felt post! I just know when I was growing up my mother had a village with me as a little girl. All the supportive ones I could have had all passed away right when my son was born( he's 13 now). Something that I have learned is that you have to create your own village. Try resources such as groups if you attend a church, gym memberships( they have child care while you workout), utilize using your PTO at work for a mental health day and use that for your self care time. Also look into activities at her school. This will put you with other moms for social interaction for you and her. I definitely feel your frustration, parenting alone is a lot of work. When she's asleep try your best to utilize your alone time. Rather that means taking a long shower, reading, watching your favorite show, exercise etc.. Fill your cup in a healthy way to recharge yourself as a single mom. From one single mom to another, keep pressing forward 💜

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Happen to be near Birmingham UK? 😅

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