Behavior Issues

This might be totally normal (I’m a ftm to a toddler) but my 18 month old has been soooooooo wild! She screams like she’s being murdered if she doesn’t get another snack right away. She knows how to say “more” in SL but she refuses to do it and just yell at us. Or when she can’t figure out how to get her blocks out of the box she’ll throw it across the room and yell. Also, when we do diaper changes she’ll kick and scream and cry so bad. She’s never been like this before. Does anyone have any advice on how to navigate this? I don’t want to yell back or make the behavior worse. Help 🥲🥲🥲

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My son is doing this also, I think it’s normal at this age 💆🏻‍♀️

but then how do we navigate this and not make it worse? 😭 trying to break the cycle of spanking and yelling back in my family

It's definitely normal!! All three of mine did this and my youngest is being a little stinker lately haha. I think they just get frustrated because they can't talk and we can always understand what they want/need so that's their way of communicating...it gets better I promise!

Honestly I think just patience and trying to Talk through things so if they throw something explaining like you don’t throw the blocks you play with the blocks and then showing like you playing with them

*can't

My son acts like a pterodactyl when I’m
Changing his diaper. Honestly I feel like I’m gonna change his diapers to the like ones that look like shorts because I be strugggggling to keep him
Down 😅

Definitely a phase.
I too came from a yelling/spanking family and do not do so (as much as possible. No spanking, but my voice definitely gets raised, more so at my 5yo. Then, Mom guilt). Anyway...
1) I try to narrate feelings so that they're better able to do so when older. "It makes me feel angry and sad when I don't get what I want right away, but sometimes we need to wait." <- this honestly helps ME even to realize like, yeah, this is the WORST thing for my tiny human because they haven't been without
2) I practice taking "Big big breaths" when they're getting really upset. So I mirror taking slow inhales through my nose, holding it, and then slowly releasing through my mouth. Doesn't necessarily work now, but my goodness was this a lifesaver later on with my older one. But I started it early.

3) When trying to kick me, hurt me, etc. I gently hold that body part and say "I won't let you hurt me" until the crazy wears off a bit. If too crazy, I'll step away, saying the same thing. During diaper changes, I'll also just try to keep her hands preoccupied

@Kassidi Be prepared for them to use that phrasing when they're older, if you're consistent. My 5yo is so incredibly emotionally mature; he regularly names his feelings. I've found him narrating my 17m old's feelings too 🤣🥰

My older twin screams when he cries if he wants something. We've been working on Sign Language too. (Just turned 17mo)

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.