How to be happy

I’m struggling with coming to terms that I’m an adult. I miss being a kid. I miss how all of my family use to be together and now we’re not. How can you go from being around your siblings and your parents every day to barely seeing each other at all anymore. Now everyone feels distant and separated. The life I once knew is gone and it will never be the same. Nothing feels exciting and fun anymore like when you were a kid. There were way less worries and a lot more joy. Everyday is the same routine over and over again. I find adulthood so boring and it’s having to do a bunch of tasks that you don’t want to do. I hate that most of our life is spent working at a job. Our life is dedicated to working and making money. I don’t know how to find joy in that. I have moments of happiness occasionally but not often. I don’t know how to cope with the way life is. I don’t know how to be happy.
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Same here. The only true happiness I have in my life anymore is my son. I miss being a kid. Everything was so much simpler then.

@Chelsea i got so confused till i looked at photos 🤦‍♀️

I tell kids "growing up is a trap enjoy being a kid while you can" for this reason

I try to remember what made me happy as a kid or what would make me happy and do at least one thing every day. It’s doable. Mostly small things but as wife and mom I tend to put myself last caring for everyone else and that sucks the joy out of life and makes me bitter and resentful.

@Monique oh no it's ok lol! I thought that people might get confused because our names are exactly the same lol 😂

I feel exactly the same 😔 Just feels like such a let down especially after looking toward adulthood for so long. Honestly feels like I’m missing something everyone else gets so it’s nice to hear I’m not alone. From what I’ve seen, it’s our own responsibility to make and find our own joy as adults (again, sucky and sometimes next to impossible especially when you factor in endless to dos.) I think it’d be much easier if we lived with extended family after growing up but unfortunately that’s not our society 🤷🏼‍♀️

Oh, Chelsea, thanks for sharing this experience and letting us reflect and become aware of how we humans can take life and things for granted. Your experience is real in the robotic world we're living

Something i love about being an expecting mama is it’s the PERFECT excuse to do all the childish things i loved over again. Since im responsible now for my baby’s childhood. I get to go build sandle castles at the beach with him. Go to apple hay rides and pumpkin patching. Etc etc all over again just for him 💓

I feel the same, I wish I was a child again, riding my bike not having to worry about money or paying bills ect, if I could go back in time I would, I’d love to be 6 years old again. It went too fast.

Im pregnant with my first and I’m hoping that once they’re here they’ll give me that same joy I experienced as a kid, experience all the things I miss from childhood through them. I really think it’s gonna help heal my inner child too 😊. But I completely get what you’re saying, being an adult is not at all what I thought it was gonna be growing up

You should voice this with your family and be the change u want to see. I know its hard as everyone can be so busy. My partner works mon-fri, my 2 working age (21 and 16) brothers also work mon-fri and my mum works mon-sat. The only day we really have is sunday but i look forward to it every week and i knkw they do too. We regularly speak on the phone, video call and message the fsmily group chat to check in. I think the key id living more consciously. Like u said, so much of our days are filled with things we hsve to do we barely get time for things we wsnt to do. But if u organise time better and plan in advance tm your days will begin to feel more purposeful. Even just saving an hr a day after kids are in bed to play some cards/board games with ur partner can be enough.

I can relate. My siblings and I use to be really close. Now we only talk in the group chat

I can relate! I miss being a kid for sure, but my childhood wasn't the best but now that I have my daughter I'm doing everything different with her to give her the childhood I never got to have. And my siblings don't talk to my unless they want/need something. I absolutely hate it. 😭

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