Have you tried pull ups?
@Emily she still manages to rip them off or pull them down
Oh gosh that has to be really upsetting, sorry! I would recommend checking out the Go Diaper Free podcast, episode 70 starts explaining the Montessori potty training method which they recommend starting between 12-18 months, during the child's sensitive period. I've got my kiddo out of daytime diapers right now and it is amazing how quickly they learn, it is a process though, especially with your first so be patient with them and yourself.
So I just started potty training my lo as well. What I have been doing is taking him to his toilet every 2ish hours and we sit there for a few minutes. Once he goes to the bathroom we celebrate and have a cookie.