No routine at 14 weeks old

4 months today and not much of a routine yet. Also bf so not much of a feeding routine and I have a toddler so he kind of has to fit in 🙈. Just this week we’re trying to get into more of a routine with sleep. For now I’ve started tracking his naps using the huckleberry app to see if there’s a pattern so I can follow his lead. We’ve started trying to put him bed earlier in the evening too but not necessarily aiming for a specific time, just getting him in his sleeping bag and in his crib when he seems tired which seems to fall around 8.30-9pm x

We've sort of fallen in to a bit of one but it's very much been dictated by my little man. He is ready for bed by 19:30 and I try everything to distract him until 8 as we co-sleep so I also go up 🤣 he wakes randomly through the night but usually every two hours. Then by 6:30 he's usually ready to be up but only for a short while and then tends to need to sleep again 8-9:30 after that we just spend the day breastfeeding when he wants and him napping on the carrier whenever he starts to get crabby. Then is bedtime again 🤣

Just going with the flow! Sleep is so up and down at the moment that I’m not rushing to get up in the morning unless it’s a non nursery day for my toddler. Very much feeding and napping on demand at the moment. She has longer naps when the 2yo is at nursery and gets disturbed a lot the rest of the week, dragged along to playgroups etc 🤣 the only thing is she’s exhausted around 7pm and is desperate to go to sleep then.

It's half 11 and my baby has just gone to bed 😂 no routine here. She does as she pleases however, it's been ok because she sleeps some decent stretches at night usually (not always)

Mine is 13 weeks and we are the same. Feed on demand and nap when she needs, usually feed to sleep and mostly contact nap. She sleeps on us downstairs in the evening until we go to bed around 10:30. I've tried establishing routines before but just found it made me more stressed and I decided that wasn't good for either of us! I went back to going with the flow and we're much more settled, and she sleeps great at night. A natural routine will come in time I think, for now I personally think do what works for you as a family.

We go up together around 11 too I feed her and put in bed (most nights) we don't have any routine, I feed on demand and she falls asleep mostly with boob, so it's all over the place 😁 on weekdays it's easier as j have school runs to do, we feed around the times I need to leave the house so it's the same every day 😁

Yes don’t feel bad for not having a routine. It’s bloody hard work when you are sleep deprived and you can’t function as well as you should. Also if you have a toddler or other children to look after and also if you are going back to work and have too much on your mind. Also if you want to go out and about and still enjoy life it’s hard for routine but if you stay in all day filling a routine you can do it but not practical. A routine will form eventually even if you are trying or not and you will find what works for you. Definitely think it’s harder breastfeeding too! Keep going and just remember everything is a phase. My baby is 14 weeks now and not a proper routine as such but having to work around a toddler is hard and just do what we can to get by. I always put baby to bed after toddler tho as found it’s easier that way. Hoping a routine will get better soon tho to make life easier. Going to try use wake windows more from now on to see if that helps.

16 weeks here and zero routine. Feeds on demand. Sleeps when he needs to sleep. Sleeps more some days than others. Gets woken by my noisy toddler! Goes to sleep for the night anywhere between 6.30pm and 8.30pm but that’s downstairs and generally on me. Haven’t even attempted a bedtime routine yet. By this age my eldest had a bedtime routine but I’d end up upstairs with her from about 7.30/8 so at least this way I get to spend some time with my husband! The no routine seems to be working alright for us at the moment so I’m in no rush to change things x

14 weeks old No routine except bedtime, cuddles and story with mummy then bed with daddy 9.30 and sleeps til 8 Day time is dictated by what he wants 😆

Totally normal, especially with breastfeeding on demand! 😊 We're the same, it's all dictated by the little dudes needs and I reckon that's the best way to be. Unfortunately we see tonnes of sleep training stuff that's put out there like it's gospel and it's hard not to worry if your little one doesn't fit into their schedules. You're doing amazing! As long as it works for you and your baby, then it's right. And at this age, sleep changes so much. If they're in a development they'll sleep more, vacs make them sleepier, little colds will do the same. There's so much going on! Little ones naturally find their own rhythm, whether that rhythm is all over the place or consistent sleep times! A little solidarity against the sleep training specific sleep times etc., following babies cues for sleep and helping them as much or as little as they need, whether that's contact naps or rocking to sleep, actually helps create a better relationship with sleep longterm because you're teaching them what safe sleep is!

Also! Just to say, if sleep training works for people then brill! Not here to judge anyone's parenting choices, you do what works for you. Just here to say you don't have to struggle to fit baby into something that doesn't work for them 😊