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None of those
None of those. It would entirely depend on the degree of relationship I had with the person telling me
I would say I’m so sorry, if there’s anything you need from me,I’m here for you
A hug and tell them if they need anything I'm here for them
“I’m sorry, I’ve been there, I’m here for you however you want me to be.” People said all kinds of crazy things to me but at the end of the day I just remember everyone is a regular person who wants to help in the way they know how so I didn’t hold any ill will towards people who responded in what I felt were weird ways.
So sorry for your loss ❤️🙏🏽
I hated the 'how far were you along?' as though they were judging how upset I should be depending on how many weeks
Erm none of those!
“Everything happens for a reason” makes me want to RAGE. And it’s what was said to me over and over.
I had a miscarriage before my son was born. My nan said it was my fault for wearing heels. Apparently heels can cause a miscarriage. 🤬
I wouldn't say any of those. Absolutely acknowledge how sorry I am for their loss. Depending on how close I am with them would determine anything else said, I think. Because I wouldn't want to force someone to open up to me more than they feel comfortable, especially if I'm not close to them.
I’m so sorry to hear that… is what I would say
My grandad asked if I wanted a boy or girl and why can't i keep my baby... I had an etopic pregnancy. I think all those responses are rubbish. I would have rather people say I'm sorry if there is anything you want or need. Or I'm here if you want to talk
Sorry, how are you/are you ok? - would be my initial response then allow them to tell whatever information they feel like. Some people want to tell you everything and some want to distance themselves and talk about something unrelated and its completely upto them x
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I would ask about how you are doing emotionally, the only of those options that is maybe appropriate to ask in my opinion is when
None of those! I would say I'm so sorry, I'm here for you, anything you need I'm here x
None of these. I’d say I was sorry for their loss and offer support in which ever way I could
Sorry did you want the baby 😂😂😂 THAT IS CRAZY
None. Just in really sorry, how are you doing?
I’ve been through 1 myself so I would probably say I’m so sorry ur going through this I’m here if u need anything day or night
None of those. “I’m sorry, how are you holding up? I’m here if you need anything.”
I’d just say , I’m really sorry to hear that do you want to talk about it x
A little hug. I wouldn't even ask. Id just hug them and hold them tight for a little while and stoke their back or their head. Just embrace them. There are feel good chemicals that come from a long hug. That's what I would want. Just be there for them. A couple times a week call in and ask how they're doing. I'd also suggest going to the garden centre there and then to pick out a nice plant in honour of their baby. I say there and then as if it's planned they'll probably cancel out of it. It'd be nice to look over at something beautiful that represents their little baby. Almost like something beautiful from something awful. A bitter sweet kinda thing. It helps some.
@Katie this is the reason for the post .
Sorry 😔 how are you feeling
None of these, I would say, I'm so sorry. I know what it feels like. I'm here for you and just take time for you to do what makes you happy. Let's have a girls' night
There's nothing you can say to make them feel better. I had 2 miscarriages and all I wanted was a hug, not somebody pretending to know what I'm going through
@Shore 💯 I wanted to shake people when they’d say that. 2nd place was getting ghosted by people who were to uncomfortable with my grief after they’d say things like “let me know if you need anything”
Id ask how far along bc the pain will differ (physically speaking) and i need to know what to get them, if they had to wait until term you get them ice packs witch hazel pads and pads, if it was at 1 month, you get some pain killers and some snacks for them, its not alot but its the only thing you can really give a mother after such a horrific loss.
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It doesn’t matter how far along you were, if the pregnancy was planned, or even if you wanted to maybe go for adoption or other options, this still happened. It’s hard. I’m so sorry for your loss. Your baby will forever be a part of you. They did studies and found that no matter if you had the baby or miscarried, the babies dna and white blood cells stay in your body and actually help fight infections in your body. The dna of your baby stays in your uterus and any future children you might have will literally be so much like them. That’s why siblings either have similar interests or look a lot alike. Your baby will forever be with you. I’m so sorry for you loss❤️
How about sorry, I’m here if you need anything at all. Don’t push questions.
I would usually say “I am so sorry”, and ask them if they’ve been to their GP or MW to double check everything is okay. Then usually comfort them and stay with them as much as possible x
Sorry for your loss , if you need to talk let me know
@Morgan nailed it
Definitely don't ask if they wanted the baby, WHAT???!!
Im sorry for your loss, is there anything i can do to help? How are you feeling?
Neither one. I would say I’m sorry
@Aria Jesus, I’m so sorry that was said to you! Sorry for your loss. Hope you are doing ok x
None of those!