Feeling Guilty

I'm a single mom. I left my ex boyfriend (baby daddy) at about 30 weeks pregnant due to psychological and verbal abuse. He is fighting for custody now and I feel so guilty that I let myself have a baby with a man like that. I don't want my daughter around him because it's not safe, but I feel like there's very little I can aside form hope that he gets bored and leaves eventually. Definitely not the life I wanted for myself or my daughter. Sometimes I cry just thinking about it.
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Hey I’m so sorry you going through that an I know what it’s like to leave abusive situations I was living in the most isolating,controlling, manipulative, gaslighting, physical abusive, ill mannered, exploitive sometime volatile relationship you can think of .. an what sad is that .. You would think such experiences would be at the hands of a lover, a husband, boyfriend.. etc but.. it was from my own family.. when I was 16 I really wanted to get married an get arranged to meet someone my mom said that I wasn’t ready yet an up until I was in my late 20s I wasn’t allowed to work, have a career, have a phone or go get my license.. I was told none of those things were necessary.. an that I had everything I needed… But then one day she gave me leniency to go to college an I was so excited! Cuz like finally I get to meet new ppl an have an opportunity to learn new things:.. during that time ppl were coming up to me saying they had interest in me but they were afraid to come closer ..

Cuz of my mom.. my mom said no man was genuinely interested in me an they only said that so they don’t feel bad.. neighbour’s we’re starting to ask when I’m getting married an she said that I’m not ready that I am focus on my career an that my mom was proud of me for that.. I graduated from my program an met someone I was 28 years old an my mom was calling a slut cuz I had premarital sex so she manipulated me to leave him an get married to someone back home.. in my late 30s she told me the only reason why she told everyone that she was proud of me is because she was embarrassed that I’m not “marriage material” an that I’m an embarrassment to any family an that she couldn’t arrange me to meet anyone I want for that reason.. I was lied to for 20 years from someone I trusted the most .. Fast track now I have a family of my own but she threatened to keep my kid an that I was not allowed to be in a new relationship an have my kid.. so I called the police.. an said everything..

So when I say I know how you feel i mean that from the bottom of my heart but as someone that made it through I want you to know it gets better ok? Chin up babe! You got this an im so proud of you for being so courageous you are an amazing example to your daughter to be a strong wonderful courages women jus like you! :)

Ohio is a mom state. As long as you are a safe mom judges lean in toward moms.

@Mone’t I live in Utah. I'm not sure what the difference is.

@Lianna have you talked to lawyers ?

@Mone’t I have an attorney

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