Team cry it out?

It depends on how old they are, I read that if they are newborns you need to pick them up, but if they are older its okay to let them self sooth, new borns need their sleep and they need to be fed, so if we’re missing those cues it’s not good, tolders it’s okay to loosen up a bit.

Yeah, my fiancé keeps saying to let her cry but I can’t. Like if she’s crying she needs something they don’t just cry to cry. She didn’t ask to be here and she can’t fix things for herself yet so if she’s crying why would I just let her sit in that discomfort. I treat her like I would want to be treated.

Same as @Anela

I have a 4 week old, I always pick her up. I want to give her a sense of safety at the house, not a sense of this is life deal with it. That's what my husband says. I tell him life will teach her that anyway. Mom will not.

Newborns can’t self soothe so I wait to see if it’s a real cry and pick him up. He tends to let out a cry in his sleep that’s short lived.

yes i pick him up every time

@Maly that’s how us mothers are..my husband is ok with letting him cry for a while but I don’t like it

@Anela that’s what I try to explain to my husband but he doesn’t get it. Says he can’t maintain his sanity if he can’t put him down for a while

@Kara exactly

@Gene lol, I'm glad I'm the mom 😅

@Gene Girl, my hubby doesn’t even let him get to the crying stage 🤣 all he does is whimper or scrunch his face up and my husband is there picking him up and then looking like a deer in headlights about if he needs to check the diaper, feed him, pass him to me, or walk around 🤣 But then he also doesn’t hear anything in the middle of the night 🙄

I pick mine up every time she crys

This is my 2nd baby and with my first, i struggled for 10 months. I never let him CIO. But now i have two under two and my one month old DOES NOT WANT TO BE PUT DOWN, at all. His pediatrician is also a sleep specialiast and insisted that infants CAN infact be left to cry and that if i chose to, i could try it. Currently trying it and its so hard. Also not sure its working. Looks like its not working and that he is wrong. I am so lost, AND SOOO DAMN EXHAUSTED

I hate when I can’t attend to my baby when she cries. It drives me nuts. I don’t understand how some can just ignore it… My toddler will sometimes have to wait but she is at an age where she starts to understand that mommy needs to finish something

I let my baby cry for 10-15min and then I go and soothe him until he stops crying and then I place him in the crib. I just repeat this cycle and it works. When he gets older I will start allowing him to just cry it out if it’s time for bed and I know everything has been taken care of.

So all our partners are telling us to let the babies cry ? 😂 my husband tells me the same thing and for the life of me I can’t.

I can tell when it’s a cry for hunger etc versus a cry burst that he’ll settle down out of. It’ll depend, my baby is a month old, so I know if he’s hungry etc because I track his feedings and such. But I do not immediately jump up when they cry.

It depends? Whenever I’m very overwhelmed or can’t carry my infant with me while I finish up a chore, I let her cry mine and my husband’s room and closing the door just enough to hear the cry but not too much. It breaks my heart at times because she is crying. But, I pick her up after I finish the chore or can recollect myself to calm her down. Most of the time, my infant (6wks) cries just to be held. Sometimes, I can’t hold her because I’m overwhelmed, so I let her cry until I can calm down.