Struggling but scared uk only pleas

I need help, I don’t know what because i had therapy in the past and jt didn’t help and I cannot take medication as I have very very bad reaction to antidepressants I had a few years ago and there’s no way I can risk being like that again with a baby I am struggling feeling extremely low and hopeless, I feel so overwhelmed and honestly I feel a complete failure to my baby Mainly because I broke up with her dad as he was just such a manipulative person and I couldn’t take the lying anymore and making me feel like I’m insane, he constantly called me a bad mum, which has seriously hurt me badly and I’m starting to believe it I’m self employed don’t earn barley £200 some months and now I’m going to need to go on universal credit, after he was support me and baby, I just feel even more depressed now as I’m worried about me and baby’s future as I live with my nan with her now we broke up, and I’m not eating just so I can afford babys stuff Im So scared that if I reach out for help they’ll think baby needs a better home as like I said no money, no home myself and now saying my mental is bad..

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Speak with your health visitor as they can make sure you and your baby are given resources to help you. Would advise you to go GP and try medication again. There are many different brands of medication so you wont react the same to every kind. Being mentally unwell doesn’t mean you cant take care of your baby and be a good mother and health professionals know this. You’ll be okay xx

I’m so sorry to hear you’re having a difficult time right now. Do you have family or friends nearby you can talk to? Often a problem shared is a problem halved. They might be able to help you emotionally and financially. If not, there is Samaritans helpline. They are well connected and may be able to advise on how best obtain support so you and the baby can live happily together. Please look after yourself to stay strong and be able to take care of the baby.

Can GP provide counseling instead/in addition to medication as sometimes having a safe space to talk can help. Right now is scary. But you've got a roof over your head and just take a minute at a time. X

Tell you regular midwife and they can set you up with the perinatal mental health service and you will get an additional mental health midwife ! I am in the same boat

Firstly, no one is going to take your baby from you. You are unwell & you are NOT a failure! Secondly, speak to your HV or GP. Medication is only one of many options. There's no shame in benefits, make sure you are claiming what you're entitled to. Food banks & baby banks are for this exact purpose & there is no shame in utilising them! How old is your baby?? On UC I think you can get free milk etc? DM me if you need to talk/vent/cry. Sending love, it will not feel like this forever x x

Pls ask to be referred to the perinatal mental health team by your GP they're a godsend so non judgemental and helpful.

Hey girl give yourself grace ❤️ parenthood, being a single parent, and life in general isn’t easy. Mum guilt is completely normal, I honestly think it just shows how much you care and want the best for your baby. Get a claim to UC done asap, you can usually apply for an advance payment too if you will struggle until you receive your first payment. They can advise you on entitlement to free nursery hours, help with rent, finding a job or enhancing your self employed income etc and you will build yourself back up one day at a time financially and emotionally cos you’ve gotta for that baby of yours and that’s what us mommas do ❤️ everyone has their lows and I promise things get better xx

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