Advice please

My mil ruined my pregnancy, made it all about her, my news was her news and she overstepped so many boundaries. Since then the relationship has been very awkward, she’s banned me from her house and refuses to visit baby here! She has seen lo 4 times in 7 months and her last visit was July! I asked my bf to arrange a visit somewhere mutual with her to draw a line and build some kind of amicable bridge for the sake of my lo. She’s refused and said she doesn’t want to see me again! Which puts my bf in a situation that he said he can’t be with me anymore. He’s asked me to find somewhere to live, I find it unfair to ask me to leave to fulfil his mothers wishes, she clearly doesn’t want us together so that she can see baby without me on the scene! Do I hang out for as long as possible to piss her off?

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In my opinion I’d say get your baby and leave. Stay with your family or try get your own place. Your husband is the one asking you to leave just because of his mum having a problem when you don’t seem to have done anything wrong. He’s not worth stay with if he’s asking you to go. You’ll be so much better on your own with baby. Don’t try to stay just to get to mil. You deserve better than that. X

I’m so sorry, that’s just awful. He’s drawn the line and chosen his side and it’s not you or the baby, it’s his mum. So you will never win here, what idiots the two of them are. I would start the plans to move and make sure you get an ironclad agreement on custody. I would also be very wary of the two of them scheming and would not be allowing them to take her overseas or out of my sight for long. That MiL is the type of psycho who causes legal troubles xx

I’m just worried they only want me to leave so that he can take baby to see her and she’s completely ruined our relationship x

That's not okay at all. You two have a child together and he's still siding with his mother? She doesn't need to see your lo if she can't be nice to their Mom. In what way does it make sense to remove baby from Mother for the sake of Grandma? I guarantee if she actually cares about your child then she will eventually find some way to accept that. If she doesn't, well then it was never really about having a relationship with her grandchild and it was all about causing issues between you and her son.

Wtf. Leave with your baby if you can. He is kicking you because his mom doesn't like you? WTAF. I m so sorry

You and your man need to talk about what you guys want. He sounds like a mommas boy. You need to draw boundaries and your bf needs to state his priorities. If he chooses his mom you’re better off without him. It might be hard but it’s the best way to heal and move forward in the long run.

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