Female rage

I swear becoming a mother has just unlocked a new level of disgust with my boyfriend and the laziness and just everything. Just never ending disappointment. And I as a women am supposed to just Bend and bend til I break. I have never been so angry at someone. I consistently use gone girl as a verb now.
It just isn’t fair. Like the labor scales is 98% to 2%. Anddddddd tbh I make more money. I feel sick.
Like I see all of the female rage tik toks and just relate so so hard now.
It just feels like I’m supposed to do everything. Figure out everything on my own. Run on 3 hours of sleep if I’m lucky and provide never ending empathy and support and get nothing back. Not even dust.

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If you’re basically a single mother then you might want to consider to just be one

IKR. We get such a rough deal. I have a new sense of respect for women who have had children. I’ve always been a big feminist but I’ve come to realise that having it all (career, family etc) means doing it all! I find myself sorting out bills and financial planning, doing DIY and all the historically male jobs too. My husband is at least sensitive to this and does what he can to make me feel appreciated, and he would never dare say no to helping with chores when he’s not at work. That’s the least you deserve so if he’s not doing that and being supportive, I’m really sorry, you’ll have to drag him into your reality with some tough conversations xx

You are making all the money you are doing everything on your own so think, really think what he’s good for and if he makes you angrier and more upset and more depressed than he makes you happy you have to ask yourself why he’s still there. As the father of the baby? He can still do that coparenting. Though sounds like he’ll actually spend more time w the baby by being a coparent than him living in house currently. At least being a coparent he’ll have the baby every weekend or every other weekend and in that weekend you can have a lil much needed break.

I feel like co parenting would be better because he would be put in a position of actually doing shit … that’s what I had to do and they are on their own too then and that’s when they start actually doing somthing with them

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