Then how?

Honestly takes a lot of mental strength and I can tell you so much more but it would be to much on this post just msg me but a fast answer would be Mental strength Respect for yourself And just realize you don’t want to be treated like that anymore and your kids deserve better I had to make sacrifices to get to where I’m at but I promise you my kids never had to see anything toxic again I worked my ass off and I play my cards right I prayed a lot and stood in faith have the time I know God came thru when all else failed wasn’t easy but girlllllll the reward and freedom I have and peace uhhhhhhhhh

Depends on your personal situation. May not be something you can do now but something you eventually can do. Put him on CS, Apply for daycare vouchers, and food stamps and housing vouchers. Look for a job that will work with your childcare schedule, look for a program or online degree program you can do so you can make more money or do a side gig at home…. Like transcriptions or court reporting, telemarking etc. ask help from friends and family. Hire babysitters. Sometimes you think you can’t… and then they leave and you find out you actually can because you don’t have a choice and what seems impossible actually isn’t. Then when they come back it doesn’t matter because they lose their power since they taught you to do it without them. That’s how it was for me. He thought he was winning but he taught me how to do it alone when I honestly thought I couldn’t but I figured it out on my own, slowly but surely.’and yes people helped along the way

Now I’m looking to do a career change to get more financially freedom which will free me from him completely. There has been a lot I have had to put up with and still do because I need the help financially, even with a court order of CS, but soon, one day…. I won’t need it. And then there will be nothing he can do or say, no power he will have, Even with all the courts and police and things DV still lingers in many women’s lives because they cannot afford to not have the financial help their partner gives. Which is also why financial abuse is now also seen as DV. But in time everyone finds their way. Just ask yourself, what would you do if he died? You would have to do it all alone anyway .

Most ppl do have support .. of their family ,friends or the government 💯