Am I right to be annoyed or am I just dramatic

So I have almost 7 month old twins, I’m also a FTM so I have had 0 ‘training’ in this shit 😂 my MIL messaged me asking how I was managing, I told her ‘I’m not gonna lie, I struggle when my partner goes to work as it’s just me and two babies that constantly wasn’t attention and I can’t split myself in half so it’s been hard’ Well fast forward to last night, my partner informs me that my MIL who is a health visitor herself has contacted the health visitors in my area to tell them that I am finding it hard to cope with the twins and thinks that they should do a house call… I was livid, motherhood isn’t easy especially with twins so I thought it was normal to struggle a bit when it is just you trying to juggle twins, housework, feeding yourself etc… am I just overreacting or do you think I am justified in being angry
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Oh I think anger is justified! She may just be trying to help but I think her first port of call should’ve been checking in on you and offering support herself!

That’s crazy to me. She checked in and then instead of offering to help somehow, she calls other people🤦‍♀️ she’s a mom herself.

Omg what! What support is that! Vile, has she done weird stuff before! What did your partner say! I salute you for having twins! You’re learning of course it’s a struggle. I would 100% cut contact with her.

As I first time mum of 7 month old twins I totally feel you, and it is absolutely normal to feel the way you do- I care for my girls alone too and it’s full on! As a health professional myself I am curious about how she is blurring her professional and personal self. The HV team shouldn’t accept her referral without your consent. She has massively overstepped boundaries as your mother in law, but also as a Health Visitor… I would be livid!

@Chloe that’s what shocked me, she has never done anything like this ever before it totally caught me off guard, what annoyed me the most is that my partner didn’t say anything to her, just told me ‘well it’s don’t now, there’s nothing much we can do about it now’

I have 7 month old twins and FTM…100% understand what you’re meaning. It’s fucking difficult!!! I would be hella raging, it’s a breech of trust.

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