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It is rough. I may do that. We visit him tomorrow and im bringing a written schedule of when he goes for a nap so bd can have a physical thing to look at so theres no "i forgot" or "didnt tell me this"
So I set boundaries with my daughter’s father. I use to call him every morning for 10 mins before daycare and 30 mins in the evening. It’s exhausting so I told him, he’s down to 2 days a week depending on what days and times I’m available. If my daughter is sleeping or on her way to sleep, I tell him she’s sleep and we’ll talk when she’s up. We don’t have anything in courts so he had no choice but to comply. It’s been working for me so far. He’s not with her so he doesn’t get to pick and choose the time he sees her, he has to go off my schedule. So my advice, set the boundaries, don’t answer the phone and call him when it’s convenient for both you and child.
If he blatantly ignores it, I just wouldn’t answer. If his schedule just doesn’t align with yours or he still wants to sleep or not, I’d turn the volume down or mute it. He talkin to the baby and the baby sleep. You just gotta hear enough for when he starts talking to you. 1 of mines grandmas was like that and her dad didn’t care to wake her for them so I’d answer, but turn it down real low and prop it. They can see her, she can’t hear them to be woken, and I’ll grab it when I want my phone back or they hang up bc they’re talkin to me and I didn’t hear. They don’t usually stay on long once they see she’s not waking.
Maybe don’t answer the phone if it’s during the no hours. Send a text he’s sleeping and to try after such and such time. Or compromise and send a message saying he’s going down for a nap soon. Coparenting is rough.