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Yes. When I returned to work I realized I had changed as a person. I was unable to do the same job I was before having my baby. I decided to move to a different location that didn’t require the same level of physical energy from me but I was still able to do my job well. 2 more babies and I’m still at the new location and it’s a great fit for me. I was sad to leave my old job but it was for the best.
@Jennifer THISSS! Also a paralegal in big law and this is why I was hesitant to even share the news that I’m expecting! I was building my career when I had my first two and now I have it, completely different feeling. I have clients who exclusively rely on me for all cases throughout my state and I regularly conduct interviews for new paralegals and associates, I’ve earned my place. I REALLY don’t want that to change! I can imagine I’m going to be pretty anxious during maternity leave. It’s not that easy to disengage from law.
@Nika agree it is hard to disengage. We might be in different kinds of law because I have very little client contact. This is just one eager young male coworker responding to requests on my assigned matter after hours before I've even seen the email. Because I'm cooking dinner or doing bath time. They know I'm happy to get back online after 9 pm. Just keep your eye out for sneaky case stealers 😆
@Jennifer ohhhh I know the ones! And that’s exactly what I’m worried about. There’s really no clocking off!
Same. Took a month or so for the impostor syndrome to fade. I honestly felt stupid, I doubted my decisions and judgement, I proofread every email 3/4 times before sending. I’ve got 3 degrees in this field and been doing it for 13 years and I STILL doubted myself. It does come back, the confidence builds slowly once you start seeing your outcomes are equally the same as before baby xx
Mom brain is real. Give it time
I'm the opposite. I actually felt good in the beginning. There were teams waiting for me to come back and people seemed excited and understanding. Only now that she's 3 years old maybe the patience is running out. They are happy to let others take over my cases when I can't respond instantly. That's never happened to me before. Paralegal at a big law firm. But that's just my experience 🤷 interested to hear others.