Switch schools

If he is asking for a new school, I think it’s worth trying. I was bullied, but I always loved my school and friends - so I never asked to move. I recommend listening to your son and I am glad you’re there for him 🖤

My oldest switched schools last year, only for her bully to also switch later in the year and followed her.

If he’s already feeling that low and asking for a new school, it might be worth considering the switch. Bullying at that age can really stick with kids, and it sounds like he needs a fresh start where he feels safe and happy. Sure, no school can guarantee things will be perfect, but if nothing’s changing where he is now, it could be a good chance for him to rebuild his confidence. Trust your gut on this one, you know him best, and if a new environment could help, it’s totally worth a shot.

@Plant_Mom8.9 omg was the switch purposeful?! That’s awful

I’m so sorry, that must be heart breaking to watch. If it feels right to you It may be worth switching schools but as a teacher I know that the parents who persistently pursue the school more likely see results. If I were in your situation I would message the teacher each time your son complains of bullying, they won’t be able to tell you if the other students are receiving consequences but I would keep asking what they are doing to resolve this problem. Then look in your school’s handbook. Most schools have a bullying policy. Email the administration and show them what the policy says and that it’s not being followed through with what your son is experiencing. I would start complaining loudly and frequently to administration and request a meeting with them to resolve this issue. I would have as much of the initial contact over writing so that you can reference how many times you have contacted and what was communicated but calling the principals directly usually helps as well.

@Elyssa I don’t think it was intentional. She’s back at her old school.

Honestly for other reasons as well I decided to homeschool my kids cuz their bullies just kept being in the same classes as my kids… like even in the lunch room they were being extorted for their lunches! I just couldn’t deal anymore

We switched my kids school for the same reason and it helped tremendously. It also helped the new school is better staffed and funded as well as has a strict zero tolerance rule. His grades are better than ever, and he has advanced in areas he struggled in, just from feeling safer and better cared for by teachers that actually want to be there.

Firstly, always listen to your kid. I’m glad you’re listening and taking things into consideration. Before you do make the switch, I really urge you to go to town with that school. Really ump it up and threaten to contact the media. These schools will do absolutely nothing until you unleash hell.

Yes definitely. If you can switch I'd say do it right away. Poor thing 😞 The bad thing about it is the school systems don't usually have what it takes to be able to put a stop to it honestly or they might just be too overwhelmed or not care. Or what they told me over and over was that they just can't control who is around my kid or what is said to her... like I went thru it bad with them. My daughter couldn't switch because she had such poor attendance from crying and refusing school.or faking I'll. So the other schools denied us. She's homeschooled now and it's done so good for her confidence and depression. If it starts young it will affect then for life.. but it's never too late for positive change and to help our babies feel better. I do think sometimes trying a change of peers can help. The wrong environment can really bring someone down and i do wish schools were better able to do something about this type of thing but they normally dont tbh.