Tantrums HELP
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They’re going though big feelings I wouldn’t ignore it. As hard as it can be sit with them (as long as they’re not hitting you) acknowledge their feeling- hurt, upset, angry etc then talk to them when they’re a bit more settled I.e I know it upset you that you couldn’t do …. It’s for your own safety, would you like a cuddle, should we do this instead and then once settle a bit distract them. They don’t know how to express their emotions and ignoring them won’t make it end any quicker x
Thank you! Xx
It’s really hard and I can find it very overwhelming when my little one is screaming over literally nothing so it’s ok to take yourself out of the situation for a breather but you just have to ride the tantrum out with them x
I want to make it clear that I would never just leave him having a tantrum for ages. Just yesterday, I packed all my shopping one handed because he would not sit on the trolley. When I mean ignore it, I mean I do not acknowledge it for a couple of minutes and 90% of times that is all he needs and then off he goes all happy playing (at that moment I acknowledge what happened and say something like "see? You are OK, no need to be upset"). I am very aware of my child's feelings and I will always run to cuddle him if he is upset (for some reason he will always chose me if he is upset), but I also know when he has a tantrum because I said no to something (like snacks just before dinner) and I don't want him to think I will backtrack on my nos every time he has one.
In fact, I always tell my friends and family (and everyone always comments on that when they see him) about how happy he always is and, if upset, there is a genuine reason for that, but, just like any child, he has his moments. Luckily for me, they are quite rare and literally last less than a minute because they are either not meant or we attend to him.
I try to distract, at this age they just can’t rationalise so distract and comfort is my go to x
My boy gets himself on the floor and lays his head sideways when he is upset about something and starts making crying noises. I literally ignore it and he goes out of it in no time.