Birthday parties
Show your support
Always tell the parent if your child is not attending. Or speak to them directly. My son was invited to two parties by the same family. It was unfortunate that both those dates we were going to be in a different country. As soon as she gave me the invite and I saw the dates I told her right away.
Let them know so they can plan food and drinks accordingly
It’s so rude not to RSVP one way or the other.
If I've sent an RSVP to say that my daughter would be at the party & then for whatever reason she couldn't attend. Then I'd send a message to say that she wouldn't be attending. However, if my daughter has had a generic invite (everyone in the class has been invited & its not just a 'friends only') if she's not going, then I'd not send a message. My daughter is having a 'friends only' birthday party & I speak to some of her friends parents. So already have their contact numbers, I let those ones know before I'd even sent out the invites😅 For the one whose parents/grandparents who I haven't spoken to &/or, even know who the child is. Then, if they don't send an RSVP to confirm their attendance then I presume that they're not coming🤷🏼♀️ If they do turn up then, I'll deal with it on the day. I've planned for 15 guests so they'll be enough food to go around.
@GMF Yup. I actually cut out people that never RSVP to our events 🤷🏻♀️
Would definitely respond either way!
@Sarah🦄 why would it make a difference what type of party it is? People still need to know who is attending. Unless for some reason you have no way to contact them
@GMF the generic ones that are just sent out to the whole class, when the invitation doesn't have your childs name written on the envelope. Its just a blank invite that's been sent out to the class (or, group) blindly. That's impersonal. My daughter got given a party invite a day before the birthday party, as the nursery forgot to put it in her bag or even pass the message on. I didn't know who the child (or parent) was & it was likely too late to go. So yes it matters if you know who the child & who the parent/carer is.
@Sarah🦄 right, of course you’d need to know who the parent or caregiver is and have their contact info. But that info could still be included on a “generic” invite and if you have the contact info the nice thing to do is RSVP. That doesn’t change the fact that people giving the party need to know how many are coming. I’m not understanding why whether the invite is impersonal or not changes whether you rsvp.
I guess the only way that people get to know each other is BY responding and RSVPing. They may send out generic invitations because they don’t know everyone’s name. How miserable would it be if everyone just didn’t bother to reply 😢
@GMF if the RSVP needs to be by a certain date & that date has passed then, they will already have the numbers on who will be there🤷🏼♀️ Those who don't respond aren't coming. Different if they respond to say that they'll be there & then just not showing up. That's rude!
@Sarah🦄 I think by not replying you also have run the risk of that parent deciding not to bother sending out an invite again to that child especially if it is someone they play with. It is something you do remember especially if trying to be careful with numbers.
@Karen my daughter doesn't go to that nursery anymore so she won't have anymore invites from whoevers party it was🤷🏼♀️ Also I'm not that petty, I'd still send an invite out to those who aren't coming to my daughter birthday party this year. Even though I've not heard anything back from the invite. Some parents are just too busy & that's okay. That's the point of the RSVP for people to tell me that they'll be there. Rather than that they won't be attending. Plus when parents send out invitatioms blindly to a group or, class they don't know who is who &/or, who is friends with their child. They're just sending out to everyone. At least put the childs name on the invite & make it personal.
Yes but it seems to be the trend nit to reply if they arnt coming. Although one year we did get 9 cancellations due to class bug and they did tell us then.