Better Communication: Day 21

Skipping past acknowledging and validating your partner is kind of like a slap in the face. And, it definitely creates more distance. I know I know, you’re ready to get to the next level of the conversation and get shit done. I know I know, you have some good ideas to fix their problem. I know I know, you also have done hard things and need to be acknowledged… But these aren’t reasons to not stop for a quick moment of validating whatever it is your partner is sharing and feeling. Validation does a lot to open the doors between you. And if you’re in doubt, just try it out for a few days as an experiment… see if pausing for validation and acknowledgement helps you decrease tension. (And if it doesn’t, throw tomatoes at me for being wrong.)