How to deal with injury

My little girls the same, the slightest bang she's screaming crying and begging me to kiss it better. She fell the other week and burst her bottom lip snd she seen the blood and freaked out and took me 20 minutes to calm her down, she'll be 3 in January xx

Don't have him look at the injury. Have him look into your eyes instead. ("I've got you. Mommy's here.") As you're cleaning the wound, give him something to squeeze and tell him to squeeze it as hard as he can. After you're done and bandaids are on, tell him to scream as loud as it hurts (on purpose). After once or twice ask "Is that all? All better?" He may yell once or twice more. After he's done, see if he wants to go back to the previous activity. If he's not ready to resume play, offer him a snack and take him to a new area to reset. Keep in mind sometimes less is more. My daughter absolutely freaks out of someone tries to put a bandaid on her, and neither kid has particularly had any use for ice (even trying was more upsetting than the injury).

My 5 year old still has meltdowns when he's hurt. He lost his first tooth this week and he scream cried for almost 30 minutes. I was told "some kids are just more sensitive than others" and that they'll figure out how to toughen up a bit eventually 😥. For comparison, my 2.5 year old slammed her finger in a door and broke it and only cried for 10 minutes, then was feeling good enough to charm all the doctors, nurses, and x ray technicians. So sometimes I think it really is just how certain kids are.

@Bonny yes trying to put ice on it makes everything 10x worse! Tonight we had an incident with the refrigerator and he actually had a bump forming so I was trying to look at it and put ice on it. I should have just let it be - you’d think I was torturing him. But this is why I get nervous for when he actually has a serious injury. I’d love to work on coping now. So grateful thank you!

@Taylor he’s definitely sensitive but actually bounces back ok. It’s when I try to treat the wound or look at it where he freaks out even more. But you’re def right and it does depend on the kid.

@Kayleigh no wonder we have gray hairs coming in lol

I feel you. Today my daughter fell playing. Somehow there was a piece of the glass in the road and cut her hand. I drove her home fast and handed her off to had cause I didn’t want to deal with the fit. He’s been next to her for over an hour helping keep her calm.

This song is genuinely quite helpful in our house whenever there’s big feelings of any kind ! Could be worth a shot https://open.spotify.com/track/4GGiFoyTlc65FY10ABWvGn?si=fNMbUL0_Ql6UMLaiLypOYQ

One of my kids is like this. I stay calm and use my professional voice. "Let's have a look. Good news, it's not broken. It's not bleeding. Your leg hasn't fallen off. It's not a graze. It's a bit red. Do you want me to kiss it better?" If he doesn't like first aid, only do it when essential.

So we had to go to the doctors today for an ear infection so I asked - she said unless you actually need to apply pressure, bandaid or ice bc there’s blood or an emergency you can forgo first aid if it makes the situation worse (so bumps bruises even if crying - of course we should all use our judgement) Made me feel a bit better. I’m unfortunately so type A and process orientated that I was feeling guilty or wrong for not applying ice in situations where I was taught you must apply ice - idk if that makes sense lol