Is this classed as abuse ?
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Yes please get out of that situation it could become worse
Yes it is! Someone who really loves you would never treat you this way (no matter how angry), especially when you are carrying his child! Is this the kind of interaction you want your future child to witness? This kind of behaviour will cause a lot of trauma to you and your child. I know it’s not easy but please reach out to your family/close friends and get help before it’s too late. Wishing you all the best x
Yes and once this line is met/crossed, it never goes back. Im so sorry - but do what you can to get out before the baby comes, protect yourself xx
Also start a log… you may need it if it continues xx
Yes this is, please seek help 🙏
You need to leave asap. That is terrifying
If it hurt when he did that then yes… it’s also emotional abuse. shouting and pinning you down is of course going to make you feel scared and he knew that when he was doing it, his intention would have been to put fear in to you. No man should ever lay his hands on a pregnant woman, it’s not always easy to leave but if you can please do because unfortunately the first time isn’t usually the last time …
Yes, this is abuse. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through something so scary as that. I’m sorry to say but once that line has been crossed, it will only get worse. Reach out to a domestic violence charity for advice.
Yes it is
Yes it is and is also emotional abuse you need some help there are plenty of charities that will help you you have to think of yourself and your child
Yes, it is. Your midwife will always ask you if you're safe at home and the answer is no. Please tell her and she will be able to get some support for you.
Yes it is 100%
Yes I’ve been there and it is. Please get out x
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Yes, 100%.
My husband was removed last month for emotional abuse it started when my 4 year old was a month old and I’ve always told myself it’s his mental health (it’s really bad) and tried so hard to help him. But I presume as I accepted it it’s escalated and last month removed for abuse and smashing the house up. I never thought he would of got violent like that. I really feel for you. Are you with a perinatal team atall? You could ask them for advice also or just to talk. I wasn’t removed, they knew what was going on perinatal and even reported to police a year ago but I said if I felt I / kids were in danger I would leave straight away which is what happened last month. Pregnancy and new babies can also effect menta mental health PND is also common in men. Being that stage of pregnancy this must be so hard for you. How do you actually feel deep down? I would urge you to speak to midwife / perinatal team x
Yes, it is, it's verbal, physical. There are domestic abuse confidential lines that you can call for help and support/, police. Events like this can repeat themselves even if it's the first time and he says sorry. Get professional advice and support.
Definitely get advice and support but be aware that once you do that you’ll be forced to leave him wether you want to or not, they’ll consider removing your children from your care if you don’t leave him
100% I’m so sorry
It’s easy to just say get out but I know how difficult it can be. I’m sorry this has happened and just know it wasn’t your fault. Please don’t blame yourself. If I was you though I would find some help, if you can’t leave by yourself. Keep things secret. Pretend things are okay, reach out to family or a friend you trust if you’re not close with anyone then speak to a professional. This is dangerous for you and your baby and the thing is a lot of people that do this will only get worse. They want you to believe they will get better but it can be a trap. I hope you find the support you need
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Yes that is a physical assault. Even without physically touching you, that would have been abuse when he started shouting in your face and becoming aggressive. Not here to tell you what to do but please do look into some resources online. Hotlines and online services do exist where you can talk to people confidentially
Yes this is abuse. You do not deserve to be treated like this. Try to get some support either from friends, family, charities, and/or midwifery team. No one will tell you what to do (I have worked in services where people disclose this sort of thing). They will take the lead off you and want to ensure you and your baby are safe, and will work WITH you with whatever you choose to do. This is a really hard thing to come to terms with, you will have mixed feelings, but know that you deserve to not be treated like this xx
If someone spits on you it is considered physical abuse so I want you to take a second to realise what actions he has done. There is a great documentary on netflix atm called my wife, abuser caught on camera, when the police asked if he had been abused in the last week he said no but he had been punched or spat on. Abuse doesn't come in mild, medium or extreme, you shouldn't grade it. Abuse is abuse.
Yes it is.