Spanking

My son is 16 months old and he gets spankings

My LO is 17 months and she is STUBBORN and persistent. Does not like the word no and likes to try to do things that will hurt her so we smack her hands or smack her leg. She cries but doesn’t do then anymore. I came from a family who spanked their kids and i’ve been in the education system for over 4 years. The lack of respect is heavily noticeable with the kids whom are “friends” with their parents instead of being a parent.

I started doing punishments (time out) since she could move and that seemed to squander all else tbh I would try that first

@Shelby my son is also very stubborn. If you try to tell him no, he will throw the worst fit and will try to bite you or throw things at you. We tried doing the smacking hands at first, but he thinks it’s funny so we’ve resorted to spanking his butt. I came from a family who was strong on discipline and I can most definitely tell the difference between children who are gentle parented and those who are disciplined. Especially at my sons daycare

Maybe unpopular opinion but if your kid is old enough for you to talk to them and they understand what they did wrong, talk to them. If they’re not, why do you want to hit a child who doesn’t understand why?

They’re too young to even regulate their emotions. Teach them don’t hit them. From my experience hitting just causes anxiety and fear.

This popped up on my Facebook and reminded me of this thread. It’s worth the watch https://www.facebook.com/share/r/19QHvSneqG/?mibextid=UalRPS

@Kristen you make it seem like we beat the shit out of them. Teaching doesn’t always work. My son is prime example. Yes he can’t regulate his emotions, but you sit there and redirect him for hours on end, and try to teach him and he thinks it’s a game, you take other measures. My parents spanked me and I turned out perfectly fine. My son goes to daycare and the children who are gentle patented and don’t get disciplined, you can most definitely tell the difference.

@Nicole have you tried time outs?

@Nikki I guess it’s like cause and effect and they learn from That

@Liz I don’t think she would understand how to do that

I have a pack n play tell her you’re going to go into timeout if redirection isn’t work and put her in it for a minute. I sit with her and tell her I understand she is upset but it is my job to keep her safe and playing with dog food is not safe (have had reactivity from dog in past) the dog food situation stopped in a week.

Per pediatrician, discipline should start at 2 years old. If behaviors are a big problem seek out pediatrician advice and potentially Early intervention for behavioral therapy. I have a 5 year old and started spanking and I regret it bc now it’s hard to teach him not to hit and to keep his hands to himself if we aren’t practicing the same thing. They learn from your behaviors.

I am definitely a fan of connection and time in over spanking and harsh discipline and punishment. Yes, it's what my parents generation did for many of my peers, as likely their parents before them.... But I see it as " I will parent differently, because I've learned differently.." Kids do not inherently know right from wrong, and teaching them right and wrong doesn't ever HAVE TO involve being harsh physically. If the child is reaching for the dog food in the bowl " the dog eats on the floor, but we eat at a table, we don't eat on the floor, but some people eat at a low table " ( referring to eating at a coffee table, or eating at a low table literally, like how the Japanese eat, and tables in that style )