Push presents

I feel like it's a fairly new thing .. I'm with you, I don't think it's necessary at all.

Never heard of this myself but from the context clues of this post I think I’ve worked it out and yeah it seems a little ridiculous to me 😅

Respectfully I believe if you carried your baby 9 months, gave birth, are going through pp to start a family then you can expect a push present if you guys want. I don’t think it’s something that should be required or expected though so it’s to each their own ☺️ I didn’t even know what a push present was until my friends told me but I never expected anything tbh

Husband never heard of it but our friends kept asking. Even with that he still never got me anything. I didn’t care lol. My baby being taken care of is more than enough

Yeah I don’t think it’s harmful or anything like that, but the idea of the baby not being the present itself it’s what’s wild to me. Getting my baby from pushing is gift enough for me aha

I think the baby is a gift for you both but the push present recognizes the mother herself and her hard work emotionally and physically when delivering, more specifically the “pushing” part.

Push present doesn’t have to be over the top or flashy it is a good way to recognize the birthing parent. It’s also personal so my Husband got me a home gym and we’re getting a new bed for mine. Both things that were really important to me. But I’ve seen others get an upgrade to their car to fit the new family size or an upgraded ring to show appreciation

I think it depends. I got a necklace for my push present that symbolizes that we are now a family of three and replaced the necklace I’d been wearing for nearly 10 years. I’ll pass it down to my daughter one day and she’ll know that it was bought just for her.

I didn’t know I was supposed to ask my husband for things in general so I definitely didn’t do this, but I don’t judge what others do. Maybe I’m the weird one here! Is this like a dominance thing in some relationships to have to ask for stuff? We just have a joint bank and we each buy whatever we want when we need or want something.

I think it is no more ridiculous than an engagement ring. I think it is nice and a modern way to acknowledge the sacrifice made by a wife for their family. Previously, wives didn't also bring home the bacon. It was their duty to bear and rear children in the marriage. After women were given the right to vote, work, be paid a fair wage and own bank accounts and property, they rose to the occassion of providing for their families too, as well as fulfilling the role of child bearer, so yes I think it is sweet and matches some modern day relationships. Given engagement rings were supposed to monetarily compensate the woman should the man not follow through with the wedding (as she'd be seen as ruined goods and nobody would marry [aka buy] her) and this isn't the case in modern life, perhaps a push present is less ridiculous than an engagement ring.

My hubby got me an early push present (currently 14 weeks pregnant). He got me a Roomba because he knew it would be harder for me to clean and was trying to make my life a bit easier for me while pregnant but also postpartum. I thought that was incredibly thoughtful!

I know what mine is because my partner can’t hold water and I’m only 8 weeks 🤣😆. I’m from NorCal so he’s getting my favorite wines from a winery I used to be a member at, nothing too crazy but I didn’t ask for it! That said, I like the idea and I definitely won’t be turning it down! I had no intention of ever having more kids after my divorce, my pregnancies were traumatic with my ex, my partner now is worlds away from how he was and I think it’s sweet and considerate that he wants to get me something.

Honestly? Any excuse to be gifted something that I can’t just impulse buy…my husband got me a whole gaming set up as my push present 😆

I agree tbh being able to carry and give birth to your child is a blessing in itself. You don’t need a present for doing that. And technically the child is the gift lol ☺️🎁