How do you deal with baby being too attached?
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Sometimes I’ll let him hear that I’m there
I was in the same boat but I just said fuck it one day and embrace it now. I always try to remember he will only be this tiny once. Tomorrow he will be bigger and older. Also, kids with healthy attachments to their mothers usually start to become independent around 3 or so
Honestly this sounds so normal. My little ones have always fed to sleep. It’s a natural reflex that babies have to suckle for comfort as well as nutrition. I would just keep feeding to sleep as you’re doing. Your Bub is still so young and has plenty of time when they’re older to learn other ways to fall asleep. Keep doing what you’re doing :)
3 month olds don't know they're separate people from us
@Tess thank you so much . It’s difficult at times especially when I want to cook or eat 😫
@Tierra phew 😥 I was worried it’d give him attachment issues later. Thank you for clarifying and reassuring me
@Zaria I tried this but it failed miserably, it isn’t enough when I speak to him I have to cuddle him so he can stop crying and to make sure he feels safe
My son was very attached at that age, it’s developmentally normal. As they get older they become more independent, so I just take advantage of the cuddles when I can. I used a wrap or carrier to get stuff done and still comfort my son. I know it’s hard mama, you’re doing a great job!
@Rukia that’s understandable, he’s like that at times
you’re doing great mama! some babies need a little more comfort than others. i had my baby in a baby carrier and that was pretty much the only way i could try to get things done. and we co-slept. im not telling you that you should but letting you know what worked for us. please do your own research about co-sleeping
Let him be attached, its a matter of time they grow so quickly. 3 months is still too early to separate, you are his comfort and safe place xx
My kid is like this until 13months old. Learn how to babywrap or use baby carrier everywhere
Don’t listen to anyone who tells you he’s too attached. Give him all the snuggles he needs. Don’t hold off on breastfeeding when you eat junk food. Your body will give baby the nutrients he needs no matter what you eat. Try baby wearing if he won’t let you put him down.
And after 13 months old he is calm and confident
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It’s normal for a baby to wanna be attached to their mom. My daughter was a high maintenance baby and contact napped a lot always on me always held. She’s now the most independent toddler ever to the point I miss those cuddly days. You are doing great! I breastfed to sleep till she self weaned at 11 and a half months! Btw you are in the process of building a healthy attachment style called a secure attachment! Good job!
It’s a normal age for that, but when it gets too bad that you can’t do anything for yourself, then I would say that you are doing too much picking-ups or holding. My mom calls it them trophy babies( no disrespect ) because I did that with my first baby, didn’t listen to her n I suffered for it. So my subsequent kids, I minimized the holding or picking up, so they crawled and walked early. You can still love on your child but not spoiled them or at the detriment of your own self. My little experience though.
@Alice thank you 😆he cries quite a lot I think he’s a colic baby too so it doesn’t help to listen to the wrong advice .
@Patience thank you for encouraging me 😊 that really reassures me .
@Joy aww thank you 😊 I tried using this baby carrier my older sister gifted me but to no avail , it’s so difficult to use I still don’t know how to use it .Lao if left me scratching my head . I Co-sleep it’s really good for babies development and growth .
@Felicity thank you 😊 and that carrier thing gave me a headache I tried using it but don’t know how it works . Honestly the cuddles are the best its healing to him and me 🥰
@Nadia by baby wrap do you mean a swaddle ? My son doesn’t like being swaddled 🤣he’s a bit of a rebel . Thank you for letting me know of your experience .
@Paige omg that is sooooo adorbs 🥹
This is all normal , I fed my son to sleep till he was almost 2 😭 then I gave him a bottle instead
Very normal! Nothing wrong with breast feeding to sleep if you are comfortable with it. I breast fed my son to sleep until he was 2 and a half
@Miranda omg I can’t imagine breast feeding him when his teeth grow 🤣it’s already a little painful he tugs at it as times 😫
@Marie yea breastfeeding after the baby is 2 has no benefits . Breastfeeding should only be for 2 years
What I do is let him sleep in his own bed for naps, or my pillow