You Pump like a Cow

While my MIL really tries her best to make me feel comfortable. I don’t know, I just can’t be free with her. The moment we start talking more often she will say things that just hurt my feelings. I mean I am lucky in many ways and I feel like I shouldn’t be complaining. But please don’t take it in the wrong way. I am 8 weeks ppt and I am breastfeeding my baby and I am what they say an over-supplier in general. So I wake up every night to express and I have managed to collect a good amount in the freezer as well (I am extremely grateful). But the other day my baby was cluster feeding all day and I was happy to nurse him. But my MIL kept insisting that I need to start formula as he was latched onto me all day and I explained to her that both me and my husband are on the same page re breastfeeding. Then, next day she started saying that to my husband but he explained the growth spurts and asked her not to worry as we will have milk even if I am away from the baby. Then, the next day MIL called me and she started asking me questions and insulting me: “so what? Do you sit like cows and keep pumping” and the whole conversation made me feel so embarrassed and she was so rude about it 🥺. (Told hubby - he said that was extremely rude, I should have talked back - I asked him not to mention it to her as I am trying to build some sort of good relation with his mum and little one’s grandma) There are so many times that she would say that I am the lucky one in my marriage as I got a husband who does everything for me. My husband is indeed great, like works, cooks, cleans and takes care everyone. I mean even during labour he was there and the support he gave was amazing. I had a generous episiotomy and oh my he was like “let’s not put you through that ever again” even though we both want more kids 😅. But the way my MIL says it almost every day makes me feel like I don’t do anything for my husband. My husband was unemployed during my pregnancy and for this reason I had to work till my 39th week (i wanted to - didn’t complain - not complaining). When my MIL says it too many times, my husband does intervene and says to her things like: “she brought us the baby though and that’s bigger then anything a man can do”. He already has a weird relation with her as she believes that he always supports me instead of her. And in general my MIL just thinks that I am too lucky as a wife. I get that she has a rough marriage but it still breaks my heart that she thinks that a helping husband makes you lucky. I really don’t know how to have a healthy relationship with her.