1 in 2 chance

Hi all Looking for some advice and support if anyone is going through the same thing right now. I’m 16 weeks I had a the screening blood test which have come back it will be 50/50 the baby will have DS. We are going to have the nipt test on Monday. I have a lg who’s 15 months I so scared as to what the results come back. I will love my child regardless but it’s so scary going into the unknown and facing life having a child with ds. I feel like I’m trying to stay positive but also I can’t now enjoy my pregnancy I feel it’s all come to a stand still I’m so beside myself at the moment. I feel like I grieving i feel sad to even feel this way 😪

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It's ok to grieve the life or child you had envisioned, but just know that a diagnosis of DS isn't a death sentence or some horrible thing that some doctors make it out to be. Don't Google anything about it cause you will only see the worst case scenarios. I recommend getting plugged into your local DS community. There are tons of organizations all over. DSDN, Gigi's Playhouse, Jack's Baskets, etc. There's a lot of support and resources. My NIPT was 95% so I pretty much knew from the beginning, but I was in denail for majority of my pregnancy. I wish I came to terms with it quicker because my son and my life with him is so beautiful. He's so strong and sweet and cute and i love him beyond words. I just didn't know what this life was going to look like back then and I had a lot of people trying to give me "hope" that the test was wrong. I also had some terrible doctors in the beginning who treated us like garbage, but thankfully I found better doctors who celebrated my baby. A child with DS is truly a gift.

So congratulations on your sweet baby. No matter what happens, this beautiful baby of yours is a huge blessing, and you're an amazing mother. ❤️

I agree with @Ashley … it’s 1000% okay to grieve and go through all the emotions (I still do at times ). During my pregnancy we did the NIPTs test and our daughter was 60.8% chance of DS; when she was born it was confirmed. The entire pregnancy was closely monitored ( we have so many sonogram’s so that’s an upside imo), it is scary at times just because I don’t always know what to expect. In our case our daughter is 3 months old ( on Thursday she will be ) and she is doing amazing and is a little advanced on some milestones, DS is a spectrum ( low to high cognitive ). When we got our results I was so sad because I never saw it as part of my plan of becoming a mom, however I will say I couldn’t imagine my life without my daughter as she is. I would highly recommend trying to find a local support group to where you are located, I would also recommend finding a support group that meets up around you for special needs families that way you are around people that are in a similar phase.

You are doing amazing and it will be okay ❤️ What I found helps/ helped with my moments of sadness is to think about all the sweet moments I have and are bound to have, I also find it super helpful to live in the moment as much as possible