You can go via koru kids, they are nannies but there policy says they aren't allowed their own children etc to be there either. So they would go to your home. If you'd prefer that, he will be in his own environment and you can pop cameras in if your not satisfied x
Youre not being weird youre being a diligent and highly aware Mama. In my opinion, I dont think the visitors or older kids is a safe option.. One of the daycares I toured made sure to let us know no visitors or other adults are allowed over with the kids around and I found that very reassuring. Do they have webcams in the home that are available to parents to check throughout the day? Have you looked at other options or does this home care have other kids that are being watched? It could be helpful to ask for a reference from another parent to see rule out and red flags. We’re always going to feel worried leaving our kids in strangers care and will take time to find a trustworthy space so don’t put your trust in one option if you’re feeling to unsure.
Some websites like care.com do a background check for child care, usually they’re in their home or would come to you.