@Kimberly thank you for your comment, it’s weirdly nice to know I’m not alone! Thankfully we’re now in a better routine etc and it’s that bit easier- not to jinx anything 😅 as my little one has a dummy for sleep I kept soothing her from the side of the cot rather than picking her up all the time. When she gets upset I give her dummy back with some shushes and head rubs then I just sit back on the floor. Repeat until back asleep or settled. She still does have 1 night feed though if she wakes. I did this as I also read the same so she gets lots of cuddles and contact stimulation during the day. I talk to her a lot more when I’m not in the room too. Seems to help
I am in the same spot as you, my little one is 10.5 months and going through the same thing. The same time at night from 2-4am. It wasn’t until I gave in and fed him a bottle that he went back to sleep. For me as well, I found that he wasn’t being stimulated enough in the day, and I ensure lots of contact helps as it can be a long time in the night not have physical contact. I also read about babies around about this age they realise they aren’t attached to you. They are also aware that you exist when you are not with them, therefore that time away from you can be challenging for them. I am also about to try an earlier bed time to avoid him being over tired. Also trying to make the times before bed as relaxing as possible. I hope this helps.