Just need a rant!
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My husband went nuts on him and told him it's not good enough that we're asking for help and they're refusing to help us. So he's putting in a Referral to a pediatrician and giving us infant gaviscon in the meantime for her reflux. I told him I'm not there to be belittled by drs or told it's because I'm a FTM. I know there's something wrong and they need to help.
It’s so great to hear that you & your husband are on the same page, I love your husbands reaction towards the doctor- go Dada!! At the end of the day, you know your baby best, as you spend 24/7 with them so just follow your instincts & seek out a second opinion if necessary. xx
Definitely agree with you! I could rant all day about GP’s - all the ones I seem to see these days are useless! I was under the impression that for the six week check you were supposed to be offered a physical examination - nope nothing offered to me and the rest was just a tick box exercise for them. Even going for non pregnancy related things they just seem uncaring and get you out the door as fast as possible!
I'll tell you one thing that I've learnt through this journey so far. I'm a FTM. 4 month old and I was OBSESSED with how much she needs to be gaining cause she's on the 9th centile. (whatever that fucking even means) She eats less but often. But listen, is your little one peeing and pooing often ? Do they seem happy ? Do they clearly turn their head and shout when they've had enough? (mine screeches at me then blows bubbles )😅 Then that's it. They're communicating to you that they're fine. The GP knows fuck all about your little one. You know best. My mum back in the day had none of this growth chart bollocks or wake windows (so she tells me) and I'm doing great at 35. 👌🏻 Every baby is different and you're doing great. ❤️ Trust your instinct. You got this. Fuck force feeding cause some random Susan told you so. If they're hungry, they'll tell you. If they're full. They'll tell you. You're smashing it ! 💖
Lolz my bad 😂! Not me reading it as GPS 😂😂😂!
I’ve had issues with both of my girls being small and their feeding ‘schedules’ with my first, she was a really sicky baby and would throw so much up after each feed. My HV kept telling me to just feed her more and eventually she’ll take it… obviously she didn’t and she wasn’t pooing so after countless dr visits and seeing the feeding team, I took her to my local pharmacy and they gave her laxatives… problem solved, she stopped being so sick With my second she was spitting her milk out only taking about 40ml per day… again after 9 blood tests, constant midwife/dr appointments, 2 paediatricians, a feeding specialist and the head consultant in my local hospital had seen her, my mum noticed she was tongue tied at 5 weeks old… my HV picked it up the day after my mum did when she witnessed me feeding baby and if it had been left a week longer, the hospital wouldnt have done anything about it
Stick to your gut and keep doing what you’re doing. If your bubba is having wet and dirty nappies, crying for feeds, waking when hungry etc, she’s probably fine. A lot of HV are going by the book and not on logic
Get a second opinion ! The first doctor we went with told me the exact same thing !! 😭 absolute cheek of him. Refused to test her for the allergy A few weeks later she was still really struggling so we booked with a lady doctor who took one look at the nappy and said yeah definitely an allergy. The test even came back positive. Trust your instinct. And I think you can opt out of the HV xx
Oh that's tough! So on the one hand she's not gaining fast enough and you have a very valid idea as to why, but on the other you're making it up. My friend went through exactly this, but was combi feeding, and eventually got the confirmation that it was cmpa and the only reason she was gaining any weight at all was the breastfeeding, as she is vegan so wasn't having any dairy! Push again. See another gp. Tell them all the symptoms and that you would like a trial or hydrolyzed milk to see if that helps with the symptoms and weight gain. I bet it's because she is in the higher centiles they don't care tbh. How many centiles has she crossed? If she's crossed 3 centiles then that should be considered faltered growth and therefore be investigated. But cmpa milk would likely be what you need!
I absolutely hate when a GP asks ‘is she your first baby?’ So what? And then smiles when I say she is as if I have overreacted! Last time I was partly relieved that he said she had an ear infection because I knew something was wrong!