Mum guilt

You are not 'unfit to be a mother'. accidents happen. You had your babies best interests in mind knowing he was hungry.

I’ts so awful your partner made you feel that way . My son fell when he was about 4 months and my partner was so reassuring . He told me you’ve done such a good job so far and you’ve looked after this boy amazing , mistakes happen we all need to be careful next time. He really shouldn’t have made you feel that away motherhood is hard already . Don’t feel guilty a lot of kids fall than you think

I’m so sorry you had to hear that sentence from your partner. You’re doing a great job and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Mistakes happen, doesn’t make you a bad mom.

I am truly heartbroken he now just keeps shaking his head saying ‘how could you’ like I did it on purpose. I’m going to end things as I cannot forgive the things he has said to me.

I never meant to for him to fall

I haven’t slept I’m exhausted it’s always my fault

It happens to all of us: when my baby was 4 months I put him on the sofa and went to make gravy, completely forgot he existed until he fell off the sofa with a bang! I felt awful, I cried but my husband never blamed me, he comforted me and told me it was ok and not my fault. I’m so sorry your partner hasn’t been supportive

Wow, your partner is a twat! I accidentally knocked my babys head with my foot a few weeks ago when she was on the floor, she screamed initially and I felt awful 😔. My partner certainly didn't blame me

What a d*ckhead. I don’t think there is a parent in the world that hasn’t made a similar mistake - my baby rolled of the sofa, bed, happened to me and my partner as well. Nobody is perfect. You are a great mother, you care about your baby. He is unfit to be a partner, he should be supporting you, not putting you down. Calling you names and threatening you is abuse.

You’re not an unfit mother - unfit mothers wouldn’t worry about it! You didn’t intentionally push him off the sofa - kids fell kids get hurt! I’d hazard a guess most people in this app have had their child roll off somewhere or fall off etc! My advice - DO NOT BUY A HOUSE WITH HIM! He has shown you his true colours, don’t be fooled by him He’s so concerned about your parenting he’s SLEEPING whilst you’re up PARENTING! Says it all!

Thank you everyone. All of a sudden I feel like the 14 year old me…..I feel lost and empty I’m going to do what’s right for me and my son I never ever would mean to do anything to hurt him😭

My baby rolled off the bed last week. My partner kept saying 'it can't happen again, that's really dangerous' like I did it on purpose. You already feel awful about it and they just make you feel worse. You are doing your best. Accidents happen and then you learn from it. They aren't home with the baby all day so they don't see how it happens but it's actually easy for it to happen

What your partner has said to you is outright disrespectful and nasty work. You are indeed a great mother by catering to your child’s need for a feed and the fact you’re choosing yourself and your child shows that as well. Mistakes happen all the time and babies are extremely unpredictable. If anything he sounds like the unfit parent. Sending you lots of love and strength 💕

I’d be so hesitant to move in with him…he doesn’t sound supportive during trying times

My baby fell off the bed too can’t remember how old she was at the time but I felt AWFUL and I was so worried she had injured herself but she was just fine.. my partner told me not to worry and said accidents happen. Your partners reaction is a red flag and has no right to call you the things he has. By the look of these comments, everyone has had a similar situation and no parent is perfect. We make mistakes, we learn. You’re just a mama trying her best💓 please have a serious re think if you want to be with this man because he honestly does not seem like a nice person.

Thank you so much girls💝 I’ve cried that much I’m exhausted - I’m going to re think if I want to be with him but I’m also scared of being on my own & I wanted my baby to grow up with a dad & for my children to have the same dad…..I guess things change We are having a pj day to relax today

Whoah! My little one fell face first off the sofa and screamed bloody murder.. he had a little nose bleed going on too from landing on his nose🫣😮‍💨 I phoned my partner immediately, whilst he was still crying and bleeding and we soothed him together. Then I cried cus I felt awful, I was sitting right there on the sofa next to him, watching him, I turned to grab the bottle and kept my leg up and out to create a bumper I thought (was nowhere near haha) and that was all it took. He was fine, seeing daddy on the screen stopped the crying and his nose was fine and everything was fine. We kept a close eye on him. My partner comforted me and supported me through that and made sure we were all okay. Your partners reaction is trash. Have a long discussion with him about how accidents happen, you try your best. If he really thinks those things of you then I'd start keeping evidence in case of custody case later, if I'm honest. I wouldn't trust him

Also just wanna say that was around 6m, he is now almost 1 and he has a new bruise/bump/booboo 3 times a week. If he fell off the sofa now I'd just pick him up and check him over and go "there there baby, next time we go feet first, remember? Feet first! Like this!" *practices that*

They're pretty sturdy 🥰 you are not a bad mum just cus there was a fall

^heidi thank you😭 but if it goes to custody he’s likely to win as I have no savings, nothing still live with mum and dad and he had a good job good income etc

That doesn’t mean you will lose access to your child. So long as you can provide a safe and nurturing environment you will be fine and you both should be able to co-parent.

Thank you everyone x

You definitely aren’t a bad mum and your partner shouldn’t have made you feel that way!!! I have ADHD and it makes me really clumsy and affects my spatial awareness so my poor lo has had her head bashed a couple of times because I’ve misjudged the space needed. She also fell off the sofa when she was 12 weeks old because I did the same about her in the corner to make milk and she managed to roll off. She is 14 months old now and is absolutely fine. She has met all of her milestones early and nursery said to me the other day you’ve got a child genius because she will tell them she needs her nappy changing by pointing at the changing table which is way advanced for her age. Your lo will be fine, accidents happen, don’t let anyone make you feel awful about it! We bear ourselves up enough when stuff like that happens, we don’t need anyone else to make us feel worse.

I saw a poll recently on here where over 50% of babies have rolled off sofa. This guy sounds unsupportive and his comments were emotionally abusive.