Husband spent his part of the mortgage. Now expecting me to cover him
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Thank you for your response. Right after this, I messaged him and expressed my feelings and told him I don’t think he’s a bum. I asked him to enroll in a financial management academy or something and he immediately sent me one. I just pray it works. I will pay it and hopefully this is a lesson learned. He didn’t spend it frivolously, you’re right. It’s just mis management. Thank you again. Your response helped a lot
Take over the family finances dear. That is the only solution. Otherwise you take over till he educates himself and he can better manage himself. Owise it is definitely a deal breaker in a union and let nobody tell you owise because love alone cannot survive. Finances are important especially when the man isn't able to manage it. Imagine if you didn't also work?? You'd be homeless or have no food. Take over his finances and don't spare him by being sweet when he needs tough love. This is very serious. It's good because it seems he's accepted the help so hopefully he also accepts your help because the ones who refuse the problem they have are the worst.
If you're able to pay his half; pay it. That's your family home and it needs to be in good standing. Should he have been more careful....ABSOLUTELY. However, it doesn't seem that he spent it on frivolous unnecessary things. This may be a lesson learned to him. And maybe you need to talk with him about how to manage going forward. For example, have him send you household funds upfront that way you can ensure things are paid appropriately. I manage our household budget because my husband isn't the best at it. There is an amount that he puts in our household account each check and it covers his half of the monthly expenses. I also build in a buffer so if he's unable to put his full amount in (he's 100% commission paid) I have some buffer to buy us time before I have to make up the rest. We meet biweekly to go over household expenses/budget to try and stay on track.