Potty training

I should start off saying my son is awaiting an autism diagnosis which can take years! But he has been seen by numerous different paediatricians who all have said he has some sort of autism but it is mild they all say.. if that’s a term to describe it?! We are really struggling with potty training and it’s really getting me down. We worked on it for about 6 months and he was perfect in the house. As soon as you’d take him anywhere else he would hold it as he didn’t feel comfortable. Been sending him to nursery in pull ups for this reason but they kept sending letters home regarding him still being in pull ups so I panicked and pushed him & he held it so much he got terrible constipation which took about 2 weeks of hell to sort. He’s now in the meantime completely regressed with potty training as when he was constipated we obviously just kept a pull up on him the whole time. He’s now pooping in school daily, I don’t know if laxatives the dr gave him are still in his system but every day I’m going to collect him and having to have a word regarding him pooping in nursery in a nappy. I have explained several times he’s most likely autistic and he hates change and freaks out using the toilet in different places but every day I’m still getting pulled to the side It’s really bringing me down as I feel they think maybe I’m using autism as an excuse and I’m just a lazy parent who can’t be arsed training my son but the reality is I’ve been trying for months and months with just no luck. Is anybody else in the same position? Any advice? Please Thanks for listening to my huge rant!

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I don't have any experience, but I would ask for a sit down with the nursery manager and his key worker and explain the situation

I also don’t have much advice, but like the above says - ask for a sit down with nursery staff and ask them for advice. Explain you have been trying, what do they suggest? Also, my sisters son was the same - he would hold his wee all day if we were out and then release when home. She just kept trying him in public toilets when out and about and he’s got much better now

Not much of advice but you could try with a portable potty? If he gets comfortable he can bring it to nursery and then see from that how it evolves? Don't know if it's a crappy idea because then he will still have to change eventually to a normal toilet 🤔 any help from the health visitor?

Also there are several groups in this app, parent support for children with autism, maybe join one and ask them if any had had the same situation. Probably many. And how they overcome it. Good luck!

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