Relationship advice.

So me and my son's dad have been together 9 years. We have a beautiful baby boy. Lately our relationship has been awful... He comes home every day in a bad mood from work. I've been finding double shooters of alcohol in his car. I believe he is drinking every day before he comes home. Whenever I try to talk to him about it he tell me that he's gonna do what he wants and I have no say. But he has been evil to me. Everything I say is wrong. Everything everything I do is wrong. I had a blowup the other day because I just couldn't handle it anymore and he just blaming it on me being crazy. He refuses to communicate with me, he refuses to go to couples counseling, he refuses to stop buying the alcohol. He has totally lost all ability to communicate with me. I am at a total loss. I love him death, but I don't know how to get through to him, I can't live this way for much longer it's really draining me. He was diagnosed with bipolar a few years ago here will take his medicine for a month and get off of it and refuse to go back on it until he decides to. Do any mamas have any advice for me, please...?

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I wish I had good advice but I don’t. Reading this makes me so sad for you, it is awful what you are going through. If he isn’t willing to make any changes I don’t see how things can get better. Maybe talking to his family and getting them involved could help but that may also make him angry towards you.

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my heart is honestly broke I pour my heart out into our home and son. I even took a demotion at work so he could get a promotion. He promised to help me with my bills. He has just been keeping all of his money, leaving me broke. I am so depressed and lost.

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Do you have family/friends you are able to talk to about your relationship? So you don’t feel so alone?

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Bipolar disorder can be so difficult. You have to communicate on eggshells and honestly it is so hard. Hoping the best for you ❤️ meds are so important and substance use only makes things worse 😩

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