Addressing someone else's child behaviour
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@Alyssa 3 year old I asked my toddler to leave and he didn't want to.
I would probably suggest we go to another park or somewhere else or ask the parents to do something.
i would have explained to the kids, that the park is for kids to play on. if they want to play by themselves they can do that, but get out of the way. i will always stand up for my kids. my daughter is VERY sensitive and passive and ive had issues with bullies at the park before. you need to talk directly to the child bc the adult does not care. and they won’t do anything about it. i’m not saying yell at the kids. but be firm.
i’m not leaving the park bc other kids are being assholes. they can go somewhere else 🥴
One time a child deliberately pushed my son when they were on the slide. I let it go for the first time and waited for their parent to step in. Then he pushed my son again. There was no parent of that child around so I approached and firmly told him to stop pushing my son and that’s it’s not ok to push like that. He stopped after that.
You’d be surprised how many parents don’t mind other people disciplining their kids in public as they say that their kids are more likely to listen to strangers, rather than them as parents. I would have done what you did, nothing wrong with it. Your child has every right to use the playground. You shouldn’t have to go home just because there are other horrible children there trying to dominate.
Im not proud to say that these kind of situations bring the worst of me EVEN MORE when the parents are around. I would address the parents first and let them know that if they don’t parent I will. Next step would be firm with the kids: which one of you told my son that he couldn’t go to the swing? If they decide to still act up I would go ahead and sit in every single part of the playground that they want to play 😂 The worst is the parents that choose to act blind.
I've told other children that my son was allowed to play with things before. One tried to push him out of the ball pit at playcare (parents absent and attendant preoccupied with two others). I looked at her and said "(son's name) is allowed to play with the ball pit. If you can't play nicely then you have to find something else to play with."
Absolutely would call them out. I'm not a person who holds back on stuff that has to do with my child and or other children at the park.
I would call them out 100%. And if it was my kid being the jerk, there would be a stern talking to and if they still didn’t listen we would be going home. Parents are afraid of hurting their kids feelings too much.
Iv called kids out before. So in this situation I’d tell them that they can all take turns or they can get off the slide and play elsewhere, they can choose but my son WILL be playing here. It’s super annoying how others don’t care about what their kids are doing.
I’m quite petty when it comes to things like this. I feel rage inside me, but it comes out as a very immature reaction. Lol. One time, my son was wanting to go down the slide in a softplay, and some older kids were stopping him from going down and saying “he’s not allowed, and they don’t like him” (we didn’t know them) my son was 4. He stuck up for himself and said that it’s not nice of them to say that, but they kept answering back and I could tell he was getting more and more upset. The parents were completely oblivious or ignoring it (not sure which) so I walked straight into the softplay saying to my son - “come on, let’s go down together, EXCUSE ME, let’s go DOWN the slide, because slides are meant to SLIDE down” all the kids stared at me and moved straight out of my way, as I’m an adult and much bigger than them. My son was so happy I came into the softplay :) I mainly do this, as I don’t like confrontation and I’m scared that if I was to tell someone’s else’s kid off, (even if
it was a nice telling off) that the mums would confront me and get annoyed. Doing it this way means I can just say I’m playing with my son. Lol.
How old were the kids? I probably would have gently asked them to move aside, take turns.. if they didn’t I would probably leave because I’m nylon very confrontational.