I feel so low

I feel this too 😅 🙌 it’s comforting to know other have the same feelings . Unfortunately does mean I have no advice though

I feel exactly the same to the point I could have written this. It's just getting harder and harder each day that goes by. I've tried taking him baby classes, swimming, play centre and he just screams and now I don't want to take him anywhere because everywhere we go he just cries even the supermarket so the only way I get out is going for walks because its the only way he'll sleep or stop crying. I'm so drained and it's making me regret becoming a mum but that makes me really sad because I do love him. Just hoping it gets better soon.

I too could have written this post up until about a month ago. My LO is 4.5 months. Have you ruled out any intolerances? Dairy being the main one. Also any reflux? Our LO has silent reflux which caused excessive crying. Since we had a dairy free formula and on medication for the reflux, he has been soooo much better. Silent reflux is when they get pain but without the throw up from acid. The other thing I’ve seen that makes a big difference is knowing his awake windows, so he can only master 90-120 minutes awake and during that time he starts to get fussy. I will notice it, time check and then get him down for a nap. Tired babies also become very fussy. These are just in my experience with him, my first child was polar opposite! I feel she lead me into a false sense of security 😂🥴. You are not on your own, reach out and ask for help. You need some you time too. Sending you a hug

Hey, I’m so sorry to read that you’re having such difficulties. Having a baby is tough and changes your life like no-one could have prepared you for! I have two now and remember that my first born was equally a tough pleasing baby. Have you tried reaching out to your health visitor? There could be several reasons as to why little one is not content, anything from being hungry, over/ under tired, gassy etc. Hollie also pointed a few reasons out. I now have a 5 months old who’s my second and I feel I have learnt from last time to really watch out for cues and respond to that. It’s worth speaking to your HV, the local family centre or a breast feeding support group, if you’re still BF. I hope it gets better xx

@Hollie she used to have reflux but is alot better with that now. She was given medication for reflux but she screamed even more with that so we stopped.

@Francine i’ve spoken to HV, taken her to the GP, and nobody can work out why shes like it. Problem is she is good as gold whenever we see anyone, smiling and happy. I try to keep to her wake windows and as soon as she hits it i try to get her to nap. But she fights it so much and won’t give in. I feel like i’ve tried everything.

I’ve found the only thing that helps is getting out and about so my LO doesn’t fight naps. It’s hard as I also have a toddler who still needs a nap and likes to nap in her cot but I try and go for a drive or a walk with them so my 5 month old gets his naps. It’s exhausting but I just go mad being in the house as he hates it and just cries a lot x

I’m too am sorry you are struggling, it can feel such a lonely place. The days feel like years and you start wishing the time away in hope that it will get better. It can feel like a never ending journey at times. Reflux is usually the cause of something else going on. Has your baby been checked for tongue and lip ties? Do they feed ok on the bottle? I really struggled to understand my LO because I was so tired and sleep deprived, I felt like I was in survival. No one can really understand it until they have been there so you have my utter empathy. Have you tried thickeners if they still suffer with reflux? Some Mums really find this helps. Hunger? Are they draining the bottles? Wind, do they suffer excessively with wind? How are the nights? Can you pin point the fussiness, as in, before or after feeds? Was the birth traumatic for your baby? Some women report really good results from cranial therapy, might be worth a shot.

@Hollie she had a tongue tie which was cut at 6 weeks. She feeds fine although has started being fussy but i think she might be teething. We’ve done cranial therapy. There is no pattern to the fussiness, its just all the time. Nights have been fine apart from the last 2. She sleeps from 7-6:30 with a feed at 10:30.

Ps your feelings are completely valid and normal. Also, mentally for your own mental health, there are Perinatal teams that can help support you. You can ask the HV to refer you. Take all the support you can get as your health and wellbeing matters, you matter. Xx

I felt exactly the same as this with my first, I was miserable. It changed when she hit 6 months and could sit up unaided. She also really took to weaning and I could just give her a breadstick to keep her happy! It's so so hard when you are in it but I promise it won't be long until you look and this period will be a distant memory