Should I be feeling guilty?

So I’ve come home from work and felt a bit off on the train, my tummy is in knots right now and I feel so sick, I’m also currently 23 weeks pregnant. I’ve had to come to bed because the pain is unbearable. It’s gastro so not baby related, but my partner is having to look after our 14 month old. He was saying he was banking on me being available tonight, so I can watch our little girl. I literally feel like crap. I’ve apologised (I don’t know why because I can’t help being ill) anyway he’s then gone stop saying sorry because you’re making out I have a problem with this. He’s like oh the house is a mess and the bottles need doing and I’ve not eaten etc. He’s walking round the house in a mood because he can’t cope. It’s a different story when he’s ill I look after our little one last time he was ill I even went to my mum and dads so he would have some peace and quiet. I just feel scared to be Ill. God knows what it’s going to be like when we have two

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It sounds like he is not a good partner! You are pregnant, of course you are tired and shattered, he needs to be supportive rather than bully!

It sounds like he’s all in a huff because his expectations weren’t met. I mean oh well, you’re a human being. You’re going to get sick from time to time, my God. Don’t you dare feel guilty, he should be the one apologizing to you for throwing a whole tantrum as an adult man!

No you should not be feeling guilty. As you said when rolls are reversed you take care of everyone. Let him have his fits. He’ll be okay.

Nope don't feel guilty. He can be in a mood all he wants you're human too and it sounds like you do everything. Stop doing that and make sure he helps with baby number 2 too. If he has a problem have him pay for help then

Don't feel guilty at all. He just doesn't have practice being the primary caregiver and taking care of everything. Ignore his mood and just take it for granted he will figure it all out. The more practice he gets the better.

No, you shouldn't feel guilty. He doesn't sound like a good partner. Why was he banking on you taking care of his child anyway? Stay in bed for as long as you need. My partner wouldn't bat an eyelid if I needed to stay in bed for days he would do his part as a father and partner

I’ve got up this morning with our daughter whilst he stays in bed, luckily I feel better but he can’t cope when I’m ill at all he gets all snappy

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