how do i respond to this?

my ex best friend of many years told me he had feelings for me for a very long time. i have mixed emotions about it, as early into our friendship i had feelings for him as well, but every time one of us were in a relationship so we would back off and continue on as friends.
mind you know we both knew about each others feelings early on, (reason why i put “hid” in brackets for the title lmao) but i had assumed it died down since he got into a years long relationship and eventually drifted off as friends. so i let it go.

i’m in my current relationship and never been happier, but that lingering heartbreak from our friendship still makes me feel a bit sad.. i don’t know why i should be,

and i don’t know why he would mention his feelings after so many years

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how can i even respond to that anyway? ugh i feel bad

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we haven’t talked to each other in a few years until he reached out. i have no plan on leaving my partner for him, i just can’t help but feel disappointed how our friendship turned out :(

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You said yourself that you’ve never been happier in your current relationship. Don’t forget that. Don’t undervalue that. I suggest do not put that at risk.

Perhaps he regrets that you are in a relationship and very happy.

Honestly - be happy that you are happy, and don’t ruminate on the what ifs.

“Couldn’t be happier” is not to be undervalued.

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