how do i respond to this?

my ex best friend of many years told me he had feelings for me for a very long time. i have mixed emotions about it, as early into our friendship i had feelings for him as well, but every time one of us were in a relationship so we would back off and continue on as friends. mind you know we both knew about each others feelings early on, (reason why i put “hid” in brackets for the title lmao) but i had assumed it died down since he got into a years long relationship and eventually drifted off as friends. so i let it go. i’m in my current relationship and never been happier, but that lingering heartbreak from our friendship still makes me feel a bit sad.. i don’t know why i should be, and i don’t know why he would mention his feelings after so many years

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how can i even respond to that anyway? ugh i feel bad

This is why I hold the view of girls and boys can’t be just friends especially if u have a partner now out of respect u need to cut ur friend of or leave ur partner and be with him

@Amira we haven’t talked to each other in a few years until he reached out. i have no plan on leaving my partner for him, i just can’t help but feel disappointed how our friendship turned out :(

That is fair I would vent it out here but then out of respect for ur partner I would put it to bed and be grateful for the relationship u have now and show gratitude for it. I wouldnt engage with ur old friend as playing into even with good intentions can potentially cause problems for ur current relationship

You said yourself that you’ve never been happier in your current relationship. Don’t forget that. Don’t undervalue that. I suggest do not put that at risk. Perhaps he regrets that you are in a relationship and very happy. Honestly - be happy that you are happy, and don’t ruminate on the what ifs. “Couldn’t be happier” is not to be undervalued.

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