Does anyone else find their partner is somewhat disconnected from their pregnancy at times?

I don’t know if it’s due to the hormones/pre natal depression, but I find myself getting easily irritated by my husband, who seems somewhat disconnected from the pregnancy lately. Don’t get me wrong he is good around the house etc, and does a lot for me, but sometimes he seems unaware and selfish - we often eat late due to him finishing work late which exacerbates my acid reflux and makes me furious. He keeps whinging about being tired and has just gone to bed at 9:30pm when last night I got little sleep due to reflux, pelvic girdle pain and leg cramps. He doesn’t seem to want to feel the kicks that often/makes me feel as if I’m almost imagining them, he doesn’t cuddle me like he used to and he just seems a bit distant. I just find him a bit aloof and selfish but I do wonder also if I’m being overly sensitive and hormonal. I’m 30 weeks. Any other mums feel the same? We haven’t yet started antenatal classes so maybe when that happens he will seem more involved and appreciate the gravity of what I’m going through physically. Thanks

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I don't have much to offer in the way of advice, but I feel exactly the same. In fact I've been thinking this pretty much all day today, and on and off for the past week or two. It certainly feels as if he doesn't understand the gravity of what I'm going through, and in his opinion 'women do it all the time, so I should be able to as well'. I'm 31 weeks, so who knows maybe we're both being overly sensitive and hormonal, but I believe there's probably some truth to we're not. Feel free to send me a message if you want to chat/vent etc.

Yeh I feel the same 😔 my partner is always complaining he's tired or has a bad back and when he attempts to do any housework he needs a rest after 5 mins 🙄 I do all the cooking and cleaning pretty much and it's becoming quite the struggle with my growing bump and other ailments! He also never wants to be intimate with me anymore, and I don't mean just sex, he's never once offered a massage and we hardly ever kiss anymore either 😑 As I type this it sounds quite bad but honestly he does care for me a lot and I think he's just struggling with the change. However I do feel like he could make more of an effort 👀

Hormones. Completely normal, everyone is a twat when you are pregnant. I had post natal depression with my first and my partner thinks I had it just before he was born also. There are sigs to spot but from what you described you don’t have it. ♥️ Hormones do weird things. Once minute your fine and love your partner the next you hate them with for breathing 😅 x

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