Overwhelmed

Sometimes, especially if he's having a rough day. We both are just trying our best to adjust to having a new baby

4 months in and totally get you. Had a conversation with my OH and we work much better. Best to take a deep breath and try to talk it through 🤞.

Do you know what that is so weird you say that I seem to be calmer all day while he is at work and when he comes home it’s like my mood changes

Yes! Trying to get her to nap, just about to fall asleep and elephant feet then decides to walk past her room. The bathroom is also next door goes in there blows his nose. Chooses his moments 😅

Absolutely! I feel yah! Especially when you’re taking care of baby all day and night . I struggle with getting a break sometimes that my mood changes and I can be short bc of exhaustion. Feel like husbands just don’t get what we do for our little ones after not getting any time for our selves all day.

https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ Try sharing this with your partner. It’s amazing how few people realise they’re overwhelmed because of the invisible mental load. It shouldn’t all have to be your responsibility. You should get an equal amount of down time. If it feels like your partner/spouse is getting loads of time to relax and you get none, it’s time to have a conversation about what tasks he can take ownership of from now on, so that you can get some time to relax. And don’t let him make excuses. My husband is a doctor who works long hours with a long commute, but he comes home and immediately gets stuck in with childcare, then does chores like dishes and bins and laundry once baby is asleep. He says he doesn’t feel entitled to sit down and rest until he knows I get the same. If he can do it with his job, I don’t know many who have a good excuse not to adopt the same attitude to equality in the home.

Depends, does he parent and do chores as well? If not, he’s just another child for you to care for which would explain why he drags you down more than uplifts

Yesss. I definitely feel a shift in my mood as soon as he comes home from work sometimes. He does help out with washing dishes/bottles and laundry sometimes when he comes home but I’ve noticed that when he does it just gets half done and then I have to finish it for him. When it comes to taking care of baby, I feel on edge when he steps in to try to give me a break because he messes up the habits and routines I’ve been trying to implement. 😩

Yessss! My daughters bedtime is just before my partner gets home, but sometimes she doesn’t always go down to sleep when she’s supposed to so my partner comes home and immediately wants to play with her which only makes her wake up instead of get sleepy. Then I’m the one dealing with a cranky overtired baby because he’s “going to shower” or “going to eat dinner”

@Brenda literally same!! And then gets mad when I tell him not to do that because I’m being controlling and he just wants to spend some time and engage with our son 🙃