Inappropriate behaviour
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That's so weird! I don't think we would even use the word sexy in front of my 7 year old SD let alone call her it! It's definitely not normal! (Or healthy)
How bizarre. Why would a mum refer to their son as sexy?! I would definitely speak to school as Hannah said and see if he behaves like this at school, it’s difficult as he will see it as appropriate behaviour if his mum is acting/saying these things. I would be getting my partner to speak to mum and find out why the hell she’s acting like that with his son! Not normal at all! X
Thank you all! I honestly find it so strange and so very inappropriate. I have mentioned it to my partner and hope that he will speak to the school. It makes me feel sick that a mum would do this to her child and then to see him act they way he does around my son some times, makes me feel very uncomfortable. I won’t be leaving them in a room together again. Xx
1. If you have 50/50 why is she calling on your time? He could have 50% of the time without this weird behaviour at least. 2. Could you have a conversation with SS about accepted behaviours in your home and that these are not accepted at your house even if they are at mummy’s? 3. Get dad to speak to Mum Very very weird!
My partner fought very hard not to have phone calls with mum in our time with SS because they were more abusive and not productive than they were anything else. Court gave dad 50/50 but because she wanted phone calls with him, the court ruled that when child is with one parent for more than 4 days at a time, that parent gets a phone call every other day. It’s very silly. There are lots more problems going on, like Step son keeps telling us he doesn’t see mum really. When he is due to be with her on her weekend/days in the week. He’s always with his mamar (her mum) and his mum is always out (she’s always at raves, or going out drinking etc). Of course it’s her choice what she does, but you would think that she would do that on the weekends and days that SS is with us. But he gets really upset. They recently went to Tenerife for the week and I said to SS, that it would be nice that he gets to spend some quality time with mum which is what he was excited for. He came back to say that
She kept a leaving him with his mamar again, while she and her boyfriend and brother went to las americas all the time. He was sad. This leads to then when he comes to us, having crying sessions before bed that he misses his mum and that he needs to go back to her etc (usually when he doesn’t want to go to bed) or doesn’t like what we have asked him to do/said no) She then sits on the phone and almost gloats that he is missing her and rather than try to calm and let him go off the phone to stop the situation. Sits and makes it worse xx
@Samantha we have both had conversations with SS about behaviours like this, but nothing changes and he finds it funny and laughs. He doesn’t understand what is inappropriate and what’s not. But have even had accusations about my partners brother who he said had grabbed him in his private parts and had a whole investigation into it with Social, just to rule out it never even happened and SS admitted that he lied about it to not get in trouble at school for touching another boys private parts
SS mother is very difficult and without sounding like most step mums talking about bio mums, but is a narcissist and often turns it on herself and says that dad needs to stop messaging her and that he is only trying to start a conversion with her because he is obsessed with her, to deflect from the fact that she has done something wrong, or isn’t doing the right thing/ doesn’t want to talk about it xx
@Samantha so sorry that this is so long of a reply🥺 xx
I would honestly speak to him school about this and ask them about any behaviour of this nature within school, and they can do a brief intervention about appropriate behaviour x