How do you and you’re partner spilt the hours in the day taking care of the kids? If yall do?
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@Susie and did u guys sit and talk about it or it just happened and it’s been working for yall ever since?
@Kaylee hiya! I think everything it’s communication, of course with a right and polite approach but definitely speak it with him x
I take care of baby whilst fiance is at work, then when he's home and at weekends we both do it. I do majority of night feeds, however he does one night a week when he's not working the next day to allow me to sleep
We have kind-of a routine? I do the night wakes. In the morning, if she wakes before 7am, he gets up with her and I stay in bed until he has to go to work. He goes to work, I take care of our child for 9 hours, he comes home. If it was a bad day, he'll take her out for a bit before dinner, if not we 50/50 parent. He makes dinner, we eat together, then after he takes her for a walk for an hour. Sometimes I tag along, but it's usually my chance to get a bit of space at home. Then we do bedtime routine together, I lay with her until she goes to sleep whilst my partner does the dishes. Then we both have free time to do whatever we want for a couple hours (both usually video game separately or we watch something together). Rinse, repeat for the week. Then at the weekends, he'll take her grocery shopping so I get some peace for a couple of hours and I try to give him a similar break over the weekend. He loves spending time solo with her and he knows I'm a better mum for getting a break!
when my son was a newborn my husband made a schedule that consisted of him taking care of the baby pretty much all the time so i can rest and recover . He had me on bed rest for a month ! He brought my baby to me whenever i called and got me whatever i wanted/needed. He also understood he had to gain my trust for me to actually be able to rest . So he dedicated his time to learning my chores and how i cared for our son so he wasn’t making me double work. He asks questions when he’s unsure . Once I began feeling comfortable and strong enough i began getting up and caring for my son around 10am and my shift ends at 8pm so now the schedule is still pretty much the same he has night shifts since i’m a SAHM and he wants me 100% rested for our son. My husband works hybrid so 2 days home and 3days in office. M&F he works from home & Tue-Thurs he’s in office until 2pm. So i only really have my son by myself when he’s in office. But overall if my husband is home , he’s doing everything
My partner cares for little one while I work from 5.30am until lunchtime, then I come home and take over. We’re both here in the afternoons and then my partner works in the evenings
@Kaylee We just talked about it briefly when he went back to work after 3 months of paternity leave and we settled into the rhythm. Like today, he came home from work at 11am and the baby was fussy so he took him so I could sleep in 😂 He just does those things that are necessary when he's home, and we don't argue much about it
I take care of the house and baby while he is at work and the big kids are at school they all get home same time and he takes over from there he gets the kids together some days he cooks if I haven’t already he will watch them while I go with my friends or my mom or really whatever! And we have a lot of help he has 9 siblings I have 7 our moms and their god mother we ALWAYS have a sitter lol
I have him all day while my partner is at work, in the evenings he helps out but I still do stuff with baby too. We take turns going to gym. He gets up with him on weekend mornings. At weekends we both look after him, sometimes I go for a bath, do yoga etc so I can have a break, but my partner will also go to gym at weekends
I take care of the baby while husband is at work and when he comes home it's his time with my occasional help. When he wants some time to game or do chores I take over or he has the baby in a bouncer. Weekends he takes the baby more than me because I have him so much during the week. It works for us :)