Can’t be trusted

My live in sister thinks she’s a great aunt and I admit she is a great aunt in some aspects- she’s playful, imaginative, a great teacher but what she isn’t is a good protector. When she gets mad at me, she takes away love and attention for my year old daughter… She intentionally distances herself from her, ignores her little arms reaching to be picked up, barely responds to her enthusiastic “Hi, Auntie!” yells, and will always tell me how ungrateful I am for her contributions as an aunt. Am I bugging that being a good aunt is my expectation? I don’t understand why she constantly throws “I do some much for your daughter” in my face. Like I’m actually asking for a different perspective in the comments bc I don’t know why she likes to hang that over my head as if that absolves all of our sisterly issues. Tonight, she took away ALL of the toys she recently bought for my daughter and her reasoning behind it was “you’re not using it. Gifts are meant to be used, not looked at.” And I am using the gifts! this is wild behavior to me. We keep going around the same mountain top ladies… I’m super pragmatic and she wants me to be more empathetic She wants so much recognition and I literally don’t even know how to give more …. Mind you, I’m paying her rent. I have resentment for her not meeting her adult responsibilities. Please advise.

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She sounds very manipulative and transactional if that's how she views the relationship with you and extending that to your daughter. Seems pretty toxic from this snippet tbh.

She ices out your toddler because she's shitty with you? She's a terrific aunt.

This sounds very toxic. She’s almost pretend playing the role of great aunt just to be able to use it against you later. Very manipulative and very mean spirited. No thank you

Time for her to move out. Who punishes someone through a child? Not to mention, she isn’t paying rent….

You’re paying HER rent? And she wants praise for loving a small tiny adorable human who’s easy to love? She might need a reality check. It’s possible you’re enabling her by providing so much and that she’d benefit from being on her own. Of course I don’t know the details of your relationship or if she has any special needs but that’s my take from what I’ve read.

That’s fucking awful. She doesn’t deserve to be around your child at all if she’s going to be a child herself

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