I want to nest!

I’m desperate to start sorting my baby’s room and putting the few bits and pieces that we have for her in their place and seeing what else we need to buy, but my mother in law has very kindly offered to paint the nursery, but apparently is a bit of a perfectionist because it has now been 5 weeks since she started the work! Granted, she’s only coming round for a couple of hours a week, but she absolutely will not let us paint as she wants to do it herself. We’ve painted most of our house ourselves and, granted, it’s not perfect, but it’s fine for us, but she wants everything to be perfect (which is lovely), but it’s just taking forever! Some walls have had 5 coats of paint and not even had the actual colour put on them yet! This is more a vent than anything else. I know she’s doing a lovely thing and it’s her input into us having this baby, but I’ve got furniture in storage that I bought her a month ago that I haven’t even seen in situ yet, and a spare room that is getting filled with unorganised baby stuff that is looking more and more like a massive project by the time we can get around to sorting it! I go on mat leave in a few weeks and I swear to god, if the room is not done, I will be painting it myself, but I think this will genuinely upset her. I kind of wanted it done by Christmas so any gifts we get can be put away ready for little one’s arrival. Help me not feel so alone in my frustrations 😅

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It’s your nursery in your house. Just paint it yourself.

@Alexandra unfortunately, I just can’t deal with the level of guilt I will feel if I do this. I had to get new skirting boards put on the room. I asked the man to paint them because I figured it’d a) look nicer and b) be one less job for her to do, but every time she comes round, she asks if the skirting came painted or if I asked for it. I tell her it came that way. I think she’s sad that someone else has had a hand in the room

Wow, it's your baby and your house! I know it's nice she's offered to do it, but I would expect it to be done in a couple of weeks at most 😬 can you not ask her to hurry up a bit as you need to sort out everything and get the furniture in? I would end up just doing it myself as I'm so impatient but I do get you don't want to piss her off... But ultimately like I said before....your baby, your house!

@Louise I know, right?! I’m glad people are agreeing with me at least 😂 it’s just so frustrating! I feel like i can’t do or say anything because it’ll upset her, and ultimately, she is just trying to do a nice thing. My partner jokes about it often with her and her response is “I have other things to do at the weekend” and he says “so don’t offer to paint a nursery!” But I think it’s all taken in jest and I don’t know if she realises what more we need to do and what she’s holding up. One thing is for sure, we won’t be accepting anymore help to get things sorted in time for the birth!

Text her and say ‘hey - just wanted to say thanks again for offering to paint the nursery. I know how busy you are and since our schedules don’t seem to be aligning and baby could be here any day now, we’ve decided to get stuck in this weekend and paint ourselves as a little mummy daddy project for baby :) really appreciate your offer though! If you’re able to come by and help you’re more than welcome, but if not don’t worry. Hubby and I have it in hand and we’re excited to get started!’ Simple. If she moans … tough shit. She can like it or lump it lol

@Alexandra that’s a great idea! If it’s not done by the time I’m on mat leave, I’ll send the text! There’s no way I can sit about the house without work and not busy myself with baby stuff when that’s literally the reason I am off work! 😂

Wishing you luck! This stuff needs to get done and you can’t stick to someone else’s schedule (I mean baby could come anytime in December really!). Always best to be prepared and you can’t do much in the nursery until it’s painted so this delays everything. The last thing you want is to still be organising stuff at 37W because of the ripple delay!

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