I don’t trust myself with my son

I have a 4 week old newborn and I have a LOT of help and I am still wildly overwhelmed and feel like I’m doing a terrible job. I get really frustrated, I would never hurt him but I have found myself being aggressive at times in my movements/speech that make me feel like a bad person and a bad mom. He is an easy baby by all accounts, everything he is doing is typical. I have a supportive partner and a night nanny. I am breastfeeding and pumping so I am still up around the clock but I would say I get more sleep than the average new mom. Today is the first day it’s just him and I while my husband is at work and he has been fussy, just regular fussy, and I have had to put him down 4x and walk away for a few minutes. He finally went down for a nap a little while ago and I’m worried I have PPD, or that I just hate being a mom. Is this normal? Does it go away? 🥲
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This can be completely normal especially for new mums, you can get postpartum rage and if your getting easily frustrated this is what i would say this is!! Don’t hesitate to go see your Dr about this and hopefully they can give you advice to help! As a new mum your not used to a screaming baby or having do anything for someone else other than yourself so it can get frustrating at time! What your doing by putting him done to calm do is the correct thing to do! Everyone needs 5 minutes especially when they’re been fussy. Doesn’t matter how many time you need to put him down even if he’s crying just take 5 minutes, go make a cup of tea/coffee or a drink and calm down then go see to him, obviously not leaving him everyday but 3/4 times a day is absolutely fine as long as he’s fed, bum changed and isn’t in any danger then go take them 5 minutes to yourself, you can’t look after a baby when your too frustrated and baby will only be more fussy if they feel your not with a clear mind!

Definitely speak to someone about how your feeling, your husband, mum, friend, dr anyone as this helps massively xx

I had this and felt so alone because I thought I was the only one. I sought counselling for it as I thought maybe it stemmed back to my childhood but I think it can also be how our brain is wired after giving birth. I had undiagnosed ppd and rage. It’s a real thing and very upsetting for the person experiencing because we love our babies and never want to cause harm. You may have this too so it might be best to speak to a gp and get referred. When I felt myself getting triggered, I would leave my baby in a safe place, and go to a room where I couldn’t hear any crying and breathe deeply until I felt myself relax. I too had moments where I was too rough with my little girl who’s now 3 years old and made her cry accidentally. They haunt me even now but understanding there’s a problem shows you’re already a very good mum. It does get better I promise

Maybe have the supportive help thru the day!?I wouldn't want to be alone if I felt like this. At least you are aware of your emotions. You just need a little bit more time to figure everything out. But in the meantime you don't wanna have anything get outta your hands. I wish you peace & joy. This is the best stage (in my book)... Just wish you were enjoying & soaking it in... I would talk to ur OB. & get on a mood stabilizer I've had PPD but it usually comes in 2m to 3 years! After the hormones have left your body. So if your feeling this already is work harder to help yourself. You need a 🫂 & your not alone! Your baby loves you! Your baby needs you! Remember to breathe & be patient with urself & him. Crying is his only way to talk to u. Much love ❤️

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