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Not selfish. Also 100% bring it up to your mum. There is no point in harbouring any negative feelings, it only affects you. Let her know you heard her.
@Kaytlen no, it's my own fault but I didn't really let her stay with anyone other than my mum and my partner/his mum. It's his weekend with her and he'll not have her any extra (the night out is on a Sunday) so they won't have her any extra & she's not used to anybody else.
@Rhiannon I hate the fact she's lied to my aunty saying she told me it was a staff night out, when she never! So now it's like I'm trying to sabotage her night out.
I'd ask your Aunty to babysit that day. Say "I'm really sorry to ask, but my Mum has a work meeting that day". Haha. That would drop your mum in it, even if you expect her to say no, you've informed her that your mum lied.
I personally say I cant recall her saying that, and that I really need that evening out, that would do me so much good a d ask regardless of the misunderstanding, if she can look after the little one. If she can fine and if she cant it is what it is or search for an alternative somehow.
I wish I could hug you. Noone wants to help. No one asked how you're doing. They never see the good or how hard your trying or the sacrifices you make. I ended up pretty much writing everyone off. It was hard and there were tears BUT we figured things out just the two of us. It's upsetting to read what you're going through. Could you work a job where you can absolutely smash out hours in the days your child is at their fathers as close to 48 hours in 2 days? And then the rest when shs at nursery? Or is this already what you're doing? Not selfish at all. You're doing your best with no real village.
You're not selfish and your mum is a bitch. She can miss one party, sounds like you've missed a dozen
Hey!! Sorry you are having to go through this alone. From someone who has noone to babysit my child as my mum is too old and wouldn't do so. It's really nice of your mum to offer this. I would definitely speak to your mum and tell her that she could have told yu that she had plans. Why not ask your baby dad if he can have her?
@Anais I already do horrible shifts! I do 9-4 Tuesday and Wednesday, 10-10 Thursday, 5-11.30 on a Friday and 9am-11.30pm on a Saturday! I really don't want to leave my job, as I've been with the company for 14 years and I'm eventually in the position I want to be in, with having a years maternity etc. Thank you, she goes on about what a great grandma she is and how my daughter is her world, but I feel like I've burdened her.
@Ella, I just think it's so sly to call me, to another member of the family, with a complete lie!!
SB, unfortunately he's having her the Friday and Saturday. The party is on the Sunday & he won't have her any extra. I've already asked when I'm meant to be on a course for work, and he just refuses.
Maybe you need to get a regular babysitter. Can you afford one?
Your mum might not believe what she’s saying but trying to manipulate your aunty. Have a chat with her
So sorry you’re going through this. Do you have any friends you’d be comfortable asking to watch your daughter? Or a recommended babysitter?