Neurodivergent mamas (especially late diagnosed)
Show your support
@Marina I have tried for about 6 months now to get him to understand my symptoms and show him how I need support from him etc… with no luck. He just makes horrible comments when I’m in a bad place and makes me feel like I’m not allowed to feel the way I do. It makes me worry that if my daughter had something too then he wouldn’t be supportive of her either. 😢 although he is helping with my assessments it doesn’t feel like he cares and it just sucks so bad.
Are there other areas in your life that he is not supportive? This sounds quite concerning. The response should be: I support you getting the answers you need. A diagnosis (or lack of diagnosis) can help me understand you better and love you more. I’d recommend reading anything by Katherine May. She is autistic and provides a very helpful picture of what it’s like to be neurodivergent. I’m really hoping the feedback from your partner is due to stigma, because otherwise it’s really concerning. You are NOT wrong to be angry about this. Sending you love
I’m so sorry, that really isnt ok. My partner was extremely supportive from the moment I said “I think I may be autistic”. They did a ton of reading and have been the most wonderful and loving, they are even sweet and understanding when I display all of (what I feel are) my worst “symptoms”. If your partner can’t be supportive when you are expressing your needs, I’m not sure anything would change with a diagnosis, but you should definitely discuss how you feel.